My Baby Girl Is Gone And I Miss Her So Much!

8 Responses to My Baby Girl Is Gone And I Miss Her So Much!

• Arlene responded:
  You have to believe that you will feel better with time. You will. This might be a blessing in disguise, because, surely, you deserve to be with someone who appreciates you and all you can give.
• night_orchid responded:
  Dear jellyroll93,
  It is so hard to be on the receiving end of your ex’s actions, and i feel for you very much. But you have to remember that there is no such thing as a "static" relationship. By this, I mean that you can never assume that time or physical closeness will guarantee that someone will be with you forever. You may find that you grow as a person, try new things or explore the world around you. In your ex’s case, she has somewhere decided that for the time being, she wants to explore different relationships.
  This doesn’t mean that she feels no love for you, or that your time together will not remain with her always. Rather, she is taking this time to explore herself, and clearly from what you’ve said about her partying and drinking, she is mirroring her feelings about herself right now by being with a guy of a similar caliber.
  I commend you for wanting to take such a huge step at a young age. Your commitment to the relationship is something very precious and heartfelt, and says a lot about you as a man. I believe that people have a way of finding one another again, esp. if they have a strong connection to begin with. That said, your ex may or may not be the one for you, but you are certainly the right one for a special someone. Give your heart to someone who is secure and emotionally ready for love, just as you are. have faith and it will all work out.
  Good luck!
• kris responded:
  i totally feel this
  but the only thing is i am a girl in my situation
  see im a junior and my boyfriend’s a senior and we fell in love in the 7th grade. but i got pregnant about a month ago and we decided to have an abortion about 2 weeks ago… i dont believe in abortions but i trusted him when he told me that everythingwould be okay and e could get married and have kids later.. now jus this past weekend he told me he doesnt want to be in a relationship with me. and im HEART BROKEN! i dont know what to do and i feel so stupid for letting him make the decision because now i wish i would have kept my baby. I dont know why he lied to me and told me to have the abortion if he didnt want to be with me anymore…do you think he will come back over time or should i just move on?? can somebody help mee!!
• Arlene responded:
  Kris
  You are really really young to raise a child. I can see how you would be heartbroken on both fronts here, but believe me, This is a good thing.
  You might not see it now, but it is. One of the worst things that can happen is spending your life, or trying to with someone that is wrong for you, and does not reciprocate your feelings, and Having a child so young, is not easy for anyone involved.
  Move on. Experience new things, get to know yourself and how wonderful you are, and let him do the same.
  The fact that you decide to abort the pregnancy is and should be separate from the fact that he left you. Imagine you would have kept the baby, and had to raise it on your own. You would have been mad with him for leaving you with a child, and rightly so.
  So even though it might seem strange that I am saying it - this is a blessing in disguise. Live your life!
  And always, always practice safe sex.
• jellyroll93 responded:
  Orchid thanks for the advice it means alot but is it bad if im scared to try this all again when this has all happened or is it normal!
• night_orchid responded:
  Dear Kris,
  Anytime you make a decision regarding a relationship, it is normal to feel some anxiety. However, I strongly caution you to really be sure that counseling with him is what you want. Don’t do it simply because he is now suggesting to go. Do you really see yourself spending the rest of your life with him? And even if he makes an effort to change, he is fundamentally who he is as a person, meaning it will a constant effort on his part to change how he views relationships and how he treats women in general.
  Please make sure that you are doing this primarily for yourself and your happiness and not just for the "relationship." Men will come and go, you are the only consistent factor here. You have to be in a happier place mentally before you can even begin to know how he should be treating you. It will all be ok. Just have a little faith in yourself dear.
• night_orchid responded:
  And Jellyroll,
  It is hard when the ones we love don’t see the potential within themselves, but often this is the case. No matter how much you love someone, they have to be ready for that kind of love as well.
  Fear holds us back from a lot, esp. in youth. But I have no doubt that things will work out just fine for you. Time really does heal a broken heart, and you sound like a genuine, kind- hearted guy. Don’t let this experience taint your view of love. If you really want the real thing, you will attract to you your soul mate. Just be patient and focus on yourself, have fun and enjoy each day as it comes. And who knows, in time your ex will surely realize that the partying and drinking will leave her feeling a little lost inside. Whether she comes back to you or not, she will look back and remember you with some regret, I promise.
• jellyroll93 responded:
  Thanks Orchid for all the advice and I just wanted to say that i’m going to try and take a day at a time to find someone but is it bad if im a little scared to get in a relationship?