My Best Friend's Husband Hates me

This is driving me crazy. My best friend and I have worked together and have been friends for 12 years. My best friend met a guy about 7 years ago and naturally they fell in love - bless. I was always supportive and tried to help in any way I could due to the fact that they started a long distance relationship and my friend did not drive. Nearly two years ago he moved down and they moved in together. He also got a job at the firm I work. I knew he was a shy man and I therefore never pushed myself upon him as "you're girls best friend" and let him settle in. However, over the last year it has become apparent that this man cannot stand me. He does not talk to me AT ALL even when its a group conversation. He will nto look me in the eye. Even when I try to start a conversation with him I get a one word reply. When I try to talk to him about work he is aggressive. I no longer see my friend socially and now the tension has reach a point where I cannot talk to her if he is in the room. This has put such a huge strain on our relationship that it is now really starting to affect it. I am now having to look for a new job because of this guy. I have tried talking to my friend, but she, understandably, makes excuses and offers to have dinner with myself and my husband to "break the ice", which never actually happens. WHAT THE HELL DO I DO?

Never mind him then. Ask her when you two would like to catch up without him. If she's still interested in the friendship, she will give that a try.

Thanks, Guy.

Problem is I've tried that. She will not do anything without this man, not even a coffee for a quick chat. She really had left everyone behind. She's even lost contact with her friend of over 20 years and they only live 5 minutes away. To be honest I don't think there is anything left that I can do, which is such a real shame.

Well, you could wait for her birthday and leave a gift. See if she does anything for the friendship.

my ex best friends partner, who became her husband, was a complete pig to me. He called me rude names within ear shot, he spoke down to me, he made fun of me, he was agressive and rude any time i was in their company. I hardly knew the guy and had no idea where this agression came from. He also stated that he hated my partner andwas always threatening to beat him up. He was so nice to other people, but I seemed to be the centre of his agression and anger. I eventually got sick of the situation and stopped calling my friend and made thedecision to cut them out of my life completely as well as the other so called friends in that group who did nithing to support me or my situation. It was basically a case of someone playing the playground bully and I was the victim. Cutting these people out of my life was the best decision I vere made. Ten years on I am, happily married with great friends who support me, and I no longer need to be subjected to this nonsense. Incidentally, my ex friends divorced this guy five years ago.

I would advise you to do the same. If your friend cannot support you, then shes not your friend.

A similar situation happened to me. In my case, I started out being best friends with her and him both. They started dating each other (through me) and then eventually he became jealous of me. He did not want her around me, he told her to choose between us. She chose him. We email from time to time but we no longer have the sister-like bond we used to share, which is a shame for me because I have no sisters. But all in all, I feel relieved to have the drama out of my life for good! They can have each other!