My boyfriend and I were extremely happy. Then he almost lost...

My boyfriend and I were extremely happy. Then he almost lost his job, after that day he said his love for me just simply dissapeared. He was heartbroken that he didn't feel the same way anymore and moved out. He says that his feelings come and go and he can't control it, like a light switch someone else is flipping on and off. He's trying to figure his own thing out and broke up with me to not lead me on but I love him, more then anything, I really think this man is my soul mate and I haven't a clue what to do. Any advice on this would be so helpful.

Maybe the stress of almost losing the job is distracting him from the relationship. Let him "figure his own thing out" without pressuring him to be with you. If he's interested in you, then he will let you know.

I know, but I'm having a hard time, it was just such a quick cut off that I feel very lost. It went from talk about marrige to literally two days later saying he felt nothing for me. Then before he left he kissed me and begged me to give him time and that he will be in touch. But when he is, it's so cold.

Here's the thing about men , when they feel like they cant provide anymore they feel powerless in a relationship ...They've been taught at a very early age to " be a man" so now that your man lost his job he feels less of aHey no problem , I kinda figured you were real busy ... Hope your doing well and having some great quality time with Mark !! And when ever your free let me know , will go have one of those sex in the city outing loll have a great night sweety !! Miss you xoxo man and that just makes him insecure in a way ... It really has nothing to do with you . For a man to be truely committed in a relationship he has to feel like his life is under control meaning : he's on his way to achieve his goals in life or better he's already successfull and all... A man needs to feel like a man ... I'm sure your guy means well , he's just going threw a phase till he gets himself together he won't be able to think much of your relationship but that doesn't mean he doesn't care for you ... Give him time and give him some support ... Just don't pitty talk him bcuz he'll feel less like a man and you wouldn't want to go there ... Maybe tell him something like : baby I know your going threw a tough time right now, don't beat yourself up babe we can pass threw this I believe in you your amazing and you'll find something better in no time ... I love you and I'll be here you haven't lost me ! ....

He texted me and broke it off. We got together the night before, and he told me he was pretty sure he wasn't coming back but would clear his mind during the day and give me an answer for sure that day. He said that no matter what happened he beg me to find a place in my heart for him, if I could tolerate it, which I could and said we would be friends. When midnight came around he hadn't called making the answer obvious. I left him a message to say that while I still loved him it was clear he didn't feel the same and I wish he could have told me to me face, but I wanted to be his friend no matter what. He texted me the next day to tell me it was over and that he felt like I had stalked him and pressured him by calling him and he took the night to think about it. I was more upset that he didn't at least call me, that is no where near the kind of friend I once found in him. I really wonder if I was just an experiment. I went from being unconditionally loved by a man who I thought was a soulmate and whom I adored, to getting a text to from him saying that we were over, the man wanted to marry me, his parents loved me, his friends had fun times with me... and in less then a week from that life, a text message ended it.