my boyfriend broke up with me but says he still loves me. He...

Hi can someone help please.

My boyfriend broke up with me but says he still loves me. He says it's killing him and cried on me when i cried to him when he did it. He wants to be best mates but I don't know if I can.

We kept having little arguements before this happened over him thinking i cheated or me thinking he did because of what eachother had done in the past and not told the other straight away trust was really hard. But i was willing to work at it. He wanted space one weekend and went out and got drunk with his friend says he can't rember the night I went through his phone and found a text from his mate sayin something about a kate girl (this all turned out to be nothing or so people say) but i duno.

He broke up with me cause he says he can't give me what i want and i deserve better. But he is the only thing I ever wanted, he's amazing. He does keep hurting me but i just think i get upset too easily.

He says ill meet someone better but I know i can't we were only together 5 months but we met like magic and fell in love instantly. I still love him and want to be with him he knows this (i basically begged him to not leave) and says cause his head is complex and he has given up doing drugs recently he wants to get himself right on his own without me as a victim? He says when he is properly sorted we can look at it again. What do I do I was no where near ready to give up yet?

He said he changed his mind when he sees me and because this is long distance only seeing eachother at weekends cause im at uni. Im scared he will forget me easily. It's nearly been a week I begged him n he says he loves me. Then i ignored him which reacted in him talking to me then i got drunk and text him saying i know you don't love me if you did you would now be doing this. what do i do am i crazy to wait?

I can only tell you from my current issue. My girl dumped me saying she wants to control her life and wants to be able to live life and do things. She wants space and time to figure things out, she loves me and always will and we will be together but not now. I begged and acted needed to get her back. Then 3 days ago i shut down all contact with her deleted her from facebook, blocked her msn and stopped texting her.

Funny thing is i want(ed) to talk so much with her and she texts me this morning at 1:48am saying you still miss me

So it seems she is thinking about me and its killing her for me not to be going after her anymore. The thing is you have to try to get over them because if you dont you will keep hurting yourself, just take care of yourself. You told him how much you wanted him and such after the break up, he knows how you feel. If he wants to get back together, he will contact you. The more you wait around and such the more depressed you become and the less you want to do anything.

Just live, everything will work out! If you want contact him after a a couple of days/weeks. With just a Hey how are you? Just so he knows that you are still caring about him.

Thanks I know decided Im just giving him some space now I text him earlier saying that Im hungover in bed i wish you were here so much that it hurts. n he text back " you'll be ok babe. im pretty hungover too need my bed x x x x" but then i decided and just wrote back like all matey then we kept txting but I just said oh thats cool take it easy.
Not going to text him until he has text me a few times now.
Leave him to see what he is missing out on! What gets me is when he says he misses me too and never loved someone so much it's like why are you doing this to me then ?!
Maybe it will be a good time to sort my head out too. thank alot. x

were back together now

way a success story!!! thats the second one ive noticed on here

Can you please, please give more details as to what happened in the time before you guys ended up getting back together? Were you ignoring him completely? Was he contacting you at all? Did he come back to you completely out of the blue?

Please write about how you handled things and how you ended up getting back together. My situation is so similar to yours and I don't know what to do to get him to come back.

I like begged him for ages when we first broke up had him crying on me saying this is the right thing and that though.

Then I realised begging did not work and he wanted to be mates so I just said okay I agree with the break up now and that shocked him I let him text me for abit giving only simple short uninterested replys ignoring him completely might make him forget me so I didn't do that. We kept talking like mates said he would always be there when I need him so I txt him one time saying I need you I'm upset can you ring me then we talked for like 3 hours just about stuff, try not to bring up the break up if I were you we just talked about random stuff like what we been doing ect..

Anyways after we talked he came up to see me a few days later and hang out with him and his mate but we kissed and acted like we were going out too which hurt because I didn't know if he actually wanted me back. After I acted busy for abit and he rung me saying he wanted us back together he kept ringing and I said lets meet up next weekend and see how it goes then he texted me asked me out again a few days later and I agreed I was nearly crying with happyness but I acted cool because I didn't want to look desperate.

Good luck hope this helped? If I'm honest you might say Im lucky but since I looked through his phone found texts to an ex about meeting up during holidays when they have "free houses" although we weren't together then neither actually agreed to and checked his phone again and they haven't talk since but it's always on my mind.

Relationships are hard : like begged him for ages when we first broke up had him crying on me saying this is the right thing and that though.

Then I realised begging did not work and he wanted to be mates so I just said okay I agree with the break up now and that shocked him I let him text me for abit giving only simple short uninterested replys ignoring him completely might make him forget me so I didn't do that. We kept talking like mates said he would always be there when I need him so I txt him one time saying I need you I'm upset can you ring me then we talked for like 3 hours just about stuff, try not to bring up the break up if I were you we just talked about random stuff like what we been doing ect..

Anyways after we talked he came up to see me a few days later and hang out with him and his mate but we kissed and acted like we were going out too which hurt because I didn't know if he actually wanted me back. After I acted busy for abit and he rung me saying he wanted us back together he kept ringing and I said lets meet up next weekend and see how it goes then he texted me asked me out again a few days later and I agreed I was nearly crying with happyness but I acted cool because I didn't want to look desperate.

Good luck hope this helped? If I'm honest you might say Im lucky but since I looked through his phone found texts to an ex about meeting up during holidays when they have "free houses" although we weren't together then neither actually agreed to and checked his phone again and they haven't talk since but it's always on my mind.

Relationships are hard :[

thank you, thank you, thank you. good luck with everything. glad to hear it worked out.

didn't end up working out at all i broke up with him not long later because he was just not putting any effort found him talking to an ex about how i was a trap and only went back with me for sex and stuff so i thought fuck that. I was horrible to him for ages ignoring him thinking im better off but now i miss him so much i can't sleep or anything i don't want him back but i'm really hurt and dunno what to do how did it go with your ex?

sometimes its better off ending i wish i accepted the nice breakup he gave me instead of prolonging a crap relationship and being made to feel like a piece of meat.

Hi !! I can totally relate to ur situation expect that I know my ex still loves me (he told me tht) but I know he is talking to this other women who is married who also kinda happens to be my friend so there can technically nothing happen there but I really don’t know what to think and feel exactly like the way you do and I’ve been with him for 3 yrs ….. I hope ur feeling better now … I know still feel like crap…

yeah everything works out in the end im totally forgotten about the last guy met some new ones one of which is amazing probobly alot better than my ex which i thought was never possible but it's been a month and i feel amazing. Try look on the brightside theres always more fish in the sea if things go bad don't go with them.

I glad ur over him and found someone better n I hope to get there soon after 3 yrs its lot difficult than I thought it would be but I happy for u n good luck with everthing