My boyfriend is mad at me. He demanded a break, blocked me o...

My boyfriend is mad at me. He demanded a break, blocked me on msn, deleted our mutual friends on facebook, and is not awnsering his phone. Yet he left his stuff here. Is there any chance I will get him back? What can I do to get him back?

Can someone please gimme some advice?

well it depends on the gravity of the fault committed. but one thing is for sure, if he has stuff at your place and those are important to him, then definitely he will get in touch with you. who knows he maybe just cooling his brains out. but again it depends on the gravity of the situation and your personalities.

I will give you a bit of background information. We got in a huge fight, about him not spending anytime with me. He was all the time with his friends. He screams and says I need a break. The next day I called him and he told me he wanted me to have an abortion. I was warning him that I was going to to much I think. Before all the fighting he told me if I got one he would never speak to me again. He was also talking about his plans with the baby in the future. I told him I didn't want to have one after all, and he says he had to go he would call me back after. two days later no phone calls. If he wants to break up why will he not come right out and tell me...instead of ignoring me?

i think he is confused. he definitely wont come out just like that to break up with you because he is also worried about the baby. and doesnt want to make any rush decisions he will regret in the future. he said before he had plans for the child which shows how excited he was and willing to take responsibility. but things changed when you said you dont want it. confusion set in.

now i dont want to dive into your reasons for wanting an abortion because i would say no to it also. but whatever your reason is its obvious it doesnt sit well with him. but now your thinking why does he want it now? probably just said it out of frustration. i dont think he is ignoring you, i think he is cooling himpself down and figuring out the best thing to do with the complication you both have. its not the baby actually thats complicating things, its what you both want to happen. thats form my stand point only.

yeah, you would think that he would want to keep in contact, and keep me from doing it thou. It's like he doesn't really care about the baby.

as i said "i dont think he is ignoring you, i think he is cooling himself down and figuring out the best thing to do with the complication you both have. its not the baby actually thats complicating things, its what you both want to happen. thats from my stand point only." but of course if he take too long to get intouch with you then thats a different story.

It will be going on the 3rd day tommorrow.

let is go a week probably. 5 days min - 7 days max. that my wild guess. if i were in his shoes i know a lot is running through his head right now, if he is so bothered by it.

Then after that, and he does not call me, or any sort of contact. Should I call him? Or will that make things worse?

He is a control freak and he is mad that you are controlling him.

And I mean a stark raving throw things smash things rage.

He doesn't care about his stuff and right now you are being punished. He is wrecking everything.

Meagan. Please think about your life. This decision is for life. For you, and only you.
He is a tornado type. You do not want to be tied to that. Nor do you want the child.

All men say things to hook you. It confuses you. He makes you believe. Once you have that kid its because you are a bitch and he is tied down and the mother f'g baby is crying and he can't take it anymore.

Is that what you want?

He is going to do this to you over and over and over. Not just this once because of the baby.

He has tied you down on purpose and now he gets to play his saddistic punching bag games.

Normal men do not act like this.

He doesn't care. Power and control. No compassion no empathy has you where he wants you life upside down guy.

I've seen it a million times.
He is not just confused.
He is not just hurt.
He is not anything.

You, stop waiting for him. Decide what you want for your life. Right now.

Think as though he is gone for good and with some other woman.

He ain't cooling down. He is PUNISHING you.
Whipping you into geisha girl right now.
No more F'g BS.
He is the master now.
Thats that.

then contact him but be calm and collect so you dont start talking in berserk mode if you get what i mean. what you 2 need is a heart to heart talk that will need a lot of respect and understanding. anger will just be a catalyst for disaster in the end if you guys let it rule over. your main aim is to resolve this and to come up with a clear direction that the 2 of you will take. be it together, separate (i hope not), and whats best for the baby since the baby is totally innocent here (i mean its not like the baby did anything to be in that situation right?).

when you 2 talk tell him he also has to be calm and collect to achieve this goal in solving the issues. your doing your part to be responsible and trying to work things out, so he has to do his part as well. if he doesnt then you know your answer already.

in a way i agree with gymgirlie also, but im kindda taking to less action packed approach and im still giving him the benefit of the doubt (but you know hhim more so you get to see the better view on this if he is truly is worth your efforts). so in your waiting period plan out what you also want and need to do for yourself just in case he does turn out to be a useless guy.

THERE IS NO REASON
THERE IS NO REASON
THERE IS NO REASON

Does it sound like he has another girlfriend?

How much does it cost?

Forget that Horsecrap Meagan.
She is a salesman pitting you emotionally.
Gawd.

I'm talking to you about pyshocs and your worried he is cheating on you and how to put a spell on him.

Just know your about to become a kicked dog in life and that men play emotional games with you.
Especially the hateful ones.

And I can tell you have no idea these people exist. Good luck in life. You will need it.

It's costly... and it would probably backfire on me. And make my situation worse... Gymgirlie thank you. Also jamessydon thank you too! You were of great help.

Meagan,

You may think you have it under control, but by avoiding and whitewashing, I can tell you are paralyzed with fear and are submitting to him.

By thanking me and James is you closing the wall and not angering him more trying to be loyal. It was like slamming the door and running.

I know exactly what you are doing and what you are not. I know what he has done to you.

You need to come out of paralyzed fear, shock stunned denial mode. Education is the best method to dealing with zig zaggers.

Learn the words oppression and opposition.

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