My boyfriend of almost 3 years, just broke up with me, and i want him back, need help!!

Ok so me my ex have been dating for 2 years and 8 months. At first, we had a rocky start, considering we were complete opposites. But after several months things seemed to get better and better. Well it was my time to go off to college, so I picked a little community college close to where we live, so that we could still be together. At first I was nervous about going to college, in fear of us drifting away, but to my surprise, we were so much stronger than before. This last christmas I received this beautiful diamond promise ring. And from then on all we could talk about was getting married and starting our life together. Everything seemed just fine, but last week he was in a really bad mood, not just towards me, but to his friends and family as well. At first I blew it off, and thought things would get better the next day. Well he called the next night and we just started talking like normal and then he started talking about his pictures he took earlier with his family and saying that I wouldn't like them, I kept asking why wouldn't them, and said something about what he was wearing, and I said well thats just tacky, but I didn't mean anything by it. Well that lead to him saying that I criticize everything that he does, like playing his guitar, games, and hangout out with friends. Which pissed me off, cause I didn't criticize him. I mean yea I would get mad when he started playing guitar when I was over, because we didn't see much of each other and I would have rather just hung out with him. Anyway that night he decided that he wanted to end it and be friends and then he said goodbye. Well I thought that was a stupid reason to break up over and so I called him a few mins. later, and he decided that I just made him so mad that he didn't realize what he was saying and that he wanted us to work it out and get back together. So we were back, the next day we had church and I could tell something was different, so I asked him what was wrong and he said that our conversation the night before was still bothering him and that he was trying to get over it and that its been hard and I agreed with him. We told each other we would work it all out and go to being like before. Well on tuesday I went to his house to hang out with him and he was still stand offish, so I thought maybe he was having a bad day, so I thought I would give him a back rub and just over look it. I thought things were getting better the longer I stayed he seemed to be not as stand offish he was becoming more loving. Well I went home thinking was back to normal, but 3 hours later he called to tell me he had been doing some thinking and that he had lost his feelings for me and that earlier that day he was trying to regain those feelings for me, and that he didn't want to end it, but he just said he didn't want to hurt me any more and asked if i would be his friend, because he wasn't ready to let me go. So i got very emotional and hung up. I wasn't expecting that at all. So yesterday I decided I would text him and asked him how he was doing and everything. Well when I left school I asked if he would meet me, and he said he would. But nothing happened he said he wasn't ready to start our relationship over. It made me so upset. So I want him back so bad, I don't know what to do...Everyone told me to give him space so I am, but only until sunday cause I promised him I wouldn't stop going to church with him. So that gives him 3 days with no contact, until the next sunday. His mom told me that to just give him a break and let him want me, and that she would help me get him, but what if it doesn't work. After all the talks about our future I don't know if I could handle not having him in my life. Nor if he loves me as much as he says he does and keeps saying Im the best thing that has ever happened to him, and I don't see him with out me. I don't know what to do, its been 2 days, and they have been the worst days of my life and according to his mom he is taking very hard and that he is very depressed. How can I get him to want me back and regain feelings for me again?

I don't think you can really control how somebody feels about you. They either do or they don't. With that said, you can give him all the space in the world and see what happens but the heart works in mysterious ways.

Well i think somehow we do have a similar situation except i was dating him for 8 months and didnt live with him, but it was the same and he suddenly decided that he cant take it anymore he feels like he is in a prison and we have different atittude and behavors that he cannot take it anymore. but if u thought for a while u will see that u r the one who cant take his behavors anymore, u call him he doesnt answer which is disrespect for u, when u talk to him his words are though like u r his enemie. he says he will call and he doesnt, he doesnt keep his words anymore as so simple he doesnt care, u sacrifice u give and u get nothing back except ur follow up is killing me i dont have my freedom , i need to do things alone have time with my friends family work my self, he asks for all this and he doesnt even give u ur right or time that u deserve.
u just start to compare, my ex boy friend was dieing to have one second with me, he adores the floor i walk on and i dumped him coz i felt he is not my dream man, and u got this bf and u start thinking about serios commitment and marriage, which made his go away even if he is the one who start thinking serious about a relation and u always says we need time to get to know each other.
trust me i readed dr phil book smart love and act like a lady think like a man and a lot of other things to see if im mistaken in my behavors and way to deal with him.
but at the end he is selfish and u cant be with someone who is not dieing to spend every second with u, so i will not give my love to someone unless he deserves it, and work hard to have it, i know u r trying to go out of this box, but u can see him every where a photo in ur wallet, pc, home and never go out of ur mind and u cant go out with friends coz u r used to do everything with him, and wherever u go it just remind u of him.
well busy ur self as much as u can, think about ur self ur study career and get into new people new friends, new things will take ur attention, even u feel everything u do even if u wanted to do since ever now u feel it boring nothing is exiting.
get ur self esteem, get ur confidence, have a strong personality, ur self respect and dont allow anyone to treat u that way, trust me no one deserve that u make ur life as he dreams about it, he lives his life his way and u live urs ur way.
trust me its hard as im trying to do this and i cant find a way yet, but im trying, i talk to my close friend even its not enough as im used to be with him day and night and all time, so from love to friend, u will find a lot of things u need to talk about but u cant.
so go back to gym, music , dancing , travel, refresh ur self, coz u r about to loose everything around i know this.
get out of this as soon as possible. dont let this feeling control ur life.
Get a life ur way.go shopping beauty salon change ur look, get something new, will make u feel u have a new life.

Ok, why is it that all the material things in the world make a girl feel better about losing an intangible? The fact of the matter is, you define your own reality, and if you have to resort to manipulation IN a relationship, the answer OUT of one is NOT manipulation. it is honesty.. remember if you want something bad enough to beg borrow and steal for it, it can be yours, but at a cost.
If you want him, then make him an offer he cant refuse. at the point when it becomes too much, then realize that he is not worth it. if you truly want him to be your everything, then listen to him. you may even have to communicate like a man, as in, JUST SAY WHAT YOU WANT, WHEN YOU WANT IT. if you feel a certain way, then find out how to fix it, and then tell him how.
Don't go to your man with a problem... go to him with some solutions and discuss it.

I am going through a similar situation. It is hard when you feel like the love was there all along, but maybe you have to consider lingering problems you never considered or brushed aside. My significant other and I are still together, but after years of not really knowing how to fix our problems we are going to have to try something new. Both of you have to want the relationship, and both of you have to be willing to work for it.