My Boyfriends Ex-Wife Hates me & is feeding Lies to there Kids about me!!

My Boyfriend's Ex-Wife is Bitter that there marriage fell apart. After having their 3 Kids she stopped carrying about her husband and focused only on the kids,that was her life and was to busy for anything else. They've been married for 18 years and the way my boyfriend was raised, he would of stayed with her in a Love Less Marriage till Death do them Part. I met him when he was married and still living at home. We were just friends, we hardly ever saw each other. After he left her and moved out, we met up again and slowly started a relationship. She blames me for their split, I never and would never get involved with a married man, I'm not judging anyone out there that has, but it's just not me.She didn't care that he moved out, but once she found out about me, i guess the jealously kicked in. She found out who I was and lied about me, my character and has contunued to do so till this day. She put a restraining order on him after she found out over a year ago that I had met his kids for the 1st time. Called Children services on him stating he is abusive to her and his children. These are all lies, Childen Services did an investigation and found nothing.He has never laid a hand on her but is using this to keep him and I away from the kids so she can collect as much money as possible. Mind you, it will be 4 years we've been together now. The first 3 years we both felt it was important to not have me meet his kids right away. She continues to lie and now we are waiting for the courts to decide the truth. I do believe the Truth will Prevail. My boyfriend is a very loving man and only tries to love his children and find peace with his EX. The kids have a great time with me everytime there around me, we laugh, play together etc. but as soon as their on there way back home to there mother they guards go up and they talk mean about me, like to honor there mother. I love kids and I really do like his kids, I know what it's like to go through Divorse, i went throgh it with my mom & dad. How do I maintain the love and patience for his children when I know these kids are being poisioned about me and us. I would love some advice!!

Ask the kids what they think about you.

I have gone through a similar thing. The best thing to do is not speak a negative word about their mother to the children. Show love and patience to them. My kids went through a period of trauma because of the games played by their mother. My new partner and I just had to give them lots of space. If they have a tantrum show them love. Try and make them laugh. They are often reacting to the conflict subconsciously and all they want is a normal life. To the children all this means in no conflict and to be able to love both parents, and even the new partners.

It is particularly hard when the ex-wife does not have a new partner because whe then has too much time to get paranoid and scheme things, which often involves the children as pawns.

It's sad to watch but the role of the new partner, like yourself, is a very important one. Hang in there for the kids sake.

The things is that he loves his childrens and he can't stay without them.
But you are wasting your time bz they hates u..
You trying to take the ex wife place, don't forget she was his wife and you are his girl friend.
You need to work on yourself, there r many womans who destroy there life to selected the married man.
Money is not everything, this to you can earn also.. Mind it from down.

I don't think you realise just how hard it is for a mother to watch her children spend time with another woman who is trying to step into the parental role. Give the mother a break. They are her children, not yours and you should be showing her some respect. If you don't like it get out. If this bloke has already left one wife and kids, whos to say he won't do it again!!

I believe"vicky" that who talks about respect are lacking it themselves.Respect?Lets talk about it shall we?You NEED to respect yourself by looking after yourself and your husband and the children.You NEED to respect the fact that you are in a relationship and love both husband and children and not treat the husband like a cash machine.

You NEED to respect the children's CHILDHOOD by not submitting them to rubbish stories about a woman that lets be fair,you don t know ,because you didn t even know your husband well enough when you lived with him in the house, nevermind a woman that you HEAR about.You need to accept and RESPECT your exhusband privacy and RIGHT to a better life,with someone that is considering him as well as the children, and TRUST him that he will never introduce your children to someone that will abuse them or not love them.

If you are SMART which Vicky you are not,no offense,you will try and communicate with the partner of your ex husband and try and work out a plan,TOGETHER to bring up your children in the way that you want,without confusing them and stressing them ,that is if you love your children.

The only people to suffer are the children and funny enough they have no fault in all this.I am a divorced mother with a child,in a relationship with a divorced father of 2.I get on fantastic with my ex,because we put our son first and he loves us both and although he is young, he respects my partner as well.Never said anything bad about my partner's ex although she 's forbidden the father to see them for 5 months until the court order came through.

Bitter women,get a life and put your children first!!