my boyfriend(which said he loves me) just broke up with me yesterday!!

i was in love with this boy, and thats hard for me cuz usually i never loved a boy as much as i do him!! and well, it drives me nuts thinking if hes thinking about me.. i don't get why boys have to always be such jerks in the very end!!
and today he is saying oh i want you baq and then changeing his mind!!! i am confused, and stupid. what do i do?

How long were you together with him? Why did he break up with you? If you are thinking about taking him back again, make sure that he doesn't change his mind about you again.

I am having the same problem. I met my BF 2 weeks after he had a baby with his ex although they were on and off during her entire prenancy. I knew of him and wanted nothing to do with him. After friends tried hooking us up we both fell in love with each other he pretty much moved in with me after a week. On top of all this he has a second child with a one night stand which i know sounds horrible but he is a great guy. We dated for a year. He brought me into his one sons life since he doesn't have any contact with the one night stand son. He convinced me to move out of my condo and into a new condo with him wanted to get married looked at rings with me told me I was his soulmate wanted to spend every min with me became best friends with my father everything was perfect!! Until about 2 weeks ago he decided he needed time to think I guess because he thought I was treating him badly. I wasn't really treating him badly I had issues with his ex she hates me and trys running his life because she has a child with him. So I packed somethings to give him his space only to find a few days later he had started to pack my stuff out of his condo. I then called him upset and moved all of my stuff out of his place and thought it was the end. He proceeded to text me we text back and forth about stupid bull shit he blamed the break up on me saying I pushed him away by treating him badly and I explianed to him it was only because I had stuff on my mind and now that I have gotten it off you are closing the door on me. So we went a few days with out talking and I decided that I would be there for him since i know he was going through a lot with a ex GF that gives him trouble about seeing his son and I son that he has that he never see and I know he feels horrible about. So I decided I would text him back since a day before he had text me I think its time we sit down and talk. So I say hey I was goign to come get the rest of my stuff and maybe we can talk. He says going out. I said okay well one thing lead to another and we talked he told me that his life was f ed up and there was never a question in his mind if he wanted to be with me or not that he wanted to be with me we talked for about 2 hours and I decieded he wanted me to come over so I did. The next morning he said just move back in we texted each other all day he made me dinner bought me my favortie things at the gocery store ect. I even text him are you sure this is what you want he said never been so sure! So we were back tog. for five days living tog. he even insited going to my easter dinner with my entire family and my to go to his families. I felt tention something was different with us after a the first few days. He even packed his bag saying he needed to get away to clear his head but ended up coming back home with his son and staying the weekend with his son and me things were okay. THe last day we were tog. he we both decieded things were differnts with us and we both had walls up and were not sure why. We went to bed the next morning he text me did you think about our talk i said yes I thinks its best if i move out but we don't have to breakup he said I think that a good Idea since things are not getting fixed with us being living tog. so after a day of texting back and forth he got mad and decided he was going to pack my stuff once again and that it wasn't going to work. So it has been two full days without us talkign and it is killing me inside! I don't know what to do can anyone help me. He also dropped of my laptop with the song angle by jamey johnson minimized on the screen and a slide show of his son that he created on my computer minimized. I just don't know where to go from here do you think he will come back is it even worth it? Please help

Do you want these breakups to be a common thing? He was on and off with his ex and he has become on and off with you too. At least you didn't become pregnant.

im going thru that with my ex right now..he has now broken up with me 4 times, and i have a daughter with him...he did this same thing to his ex gf....and it seems everytime he leaves, hes leaving to go find someone else to sleep with, but i dont know for sure..he just told me the other day that he does still love me...but why if u love someone would you give up on them? id never dream of leaving him cause i love him more than life itself..he means the world to me......but i dont know what to do anymore..i just want him to come back to me forever..i cant see him with someone else its breaking my heart

My dad was like that when he was younger he used to be a player just to sleep with different women. I hated that even till now that i am older i dont now exactly what to tell you but that you shouldnt get envolve with him at all because i now that you love him that much but its best that your daughter as she gets older she wont see what type of dad she instead you can go out and find a good man who will love you and your daughter dont give up or let him stop you from continueing life. your daughter needs you to be strong so do that for her.

it seems like he does love you just isnt coping with his feelings very well.it's not fair on you,but unfortunately this is how relationships are - he's not happy,so you're not happy,and thenn he's not happy coz you're not happy.it's a vicious circle.i dont really know what's the best approach to this situation.probably to try and just wait it out.give him time to sort out his emotions.coz it sounds like he's all over the place.but i know it's very hard when you're in love and miss him and just put yourself through it over and over again.your situation is similar to what i'm going through with my boyfriend.we were both involved in unhappy,negative relationships before we got together.he's got two children with his ex-girlfriend and i've got a daugther from my previous relationship.we've been together - on and off - for 10 months now.i've never loved anyone like i love him and i ve never felt loved by any man,like i feel loved by him.but he's called things off like 4 times now and i have a feelin that after the last time we decided we just cant live without each other the fifth time is comin to get me.the thing is that he's not coping very well with the guilt for leaving his children.and it doesnt matter that he sees them every single day and that theyy stay over at his about 3 times a week.he's always been a hands on dad and has an amazing bond with his kids.and what kills him is the fact that he cant give them a'normal' family situation where mummy and daddy live together.he even tried to get back with his ex just for the sake of kids.but the problem is that whatever love he had for her died a long time before i d appeared in his life.and he just cant do it.so it's a constant limbo he's in.living between what he thiks he should do and what he wants to do.the pattern looks like this - we're together for a while,and usually after about 2mnths he gets really tense and really guilty for being happy with me.he feels bad for putting his own happiness first and making his children unhappy.so he calls it off.then after about a week we're back toghether with him sayin that everytime he's close to making that decision about going back to his ex to bring up the kids'in a normal family' he cant bring himself to actually take that step,coz he knows that he doesnt love her and wants to be with me.it hurts so bad each single time i cant even explain.sometimes i wish i was stronger and just leave him no matter how we both feel.
but he's my my soulmate,my friend and my lover - how do i leave that?besides,i know what he's going through is extremely hard and i understand that he's not only hurting me,but himself too,in the process.we've talked about everything like a million times.i even said to him that if i could i would just pack his suitcase and move him back in with his ex(although just the thought of them together makes me feel sick with jealousy)just so he finds out if that option was ever possible,just to break that cycle.but i think this kind of move would only hurt everyone involved even more.but then maybe some people have to learn things hard way...i dont know.i feel like my life has turned into this cheap soap opera,with all the twist and turns...it drives me insane.i just want everything to be all right.but it looks like all i can do is wait and see and be strong - sometimes for the both of us.
so there,cant give you a better advice than just wait and see and if you love him and think he's the one you want to spend the rest of your life with,then patience is the way.but i know it's soooo very hard.
wishin you a lot of strenght...x

JUST MOVE ON BECAUSE IAM ONE OF THE PEOPLE YHSAT WAS ON THE OTHER SIDE WHERE I CHANGED MY MIND BECAUSE I WANT TO BE WITH SOME ONE CAUSE I CARED FOR THEN BUT DIDNT CAUSE THE SITUATION WE WERE IN SO JUST KEEP MOVING AND IGNORE HIM

This man seems to have a pattern of emotional stability, and no matter how much you love him , it may take him a while to change. I would say just break it off, maybe let him appreciate you more in that way, but don't hold out hope. This guy has some issues and is only toying with you, whether he sees that or not, remove yourself from the situation. Pack your things and leave when he isn't there.
I also suspect he may still be involved with his ex. Nobody packs a bag and needs to clear their head THAT much. Goodluck!

sorry i ment to say instability

I think u should not go out with him cuz i been there he saids he wnt my bc so i went out again nd he broke up wth my again. So he is just not worth it dnt go out with him. SHe will probaly brake up wth uagain nd you'll be hutr again trust me just forget bout him nd move on wht ur life wth out him LOL!!!!!

well he's probably having regrets about something. i don't know what kind of person you are; if you had sex with him or was a nice girl or what. but i can tell you that if you were having sex with him, that's probably all he wants back. but if you were good to him and didn't let him have you, he probably realizes he made a mistake, and wants you back because of the kind of person you are. maybe i could help you more if you just included how close you were with this guy and what you've done with him. otherwise i have no idea why he broke up with you and immediately wanted to get back together. sounds like a personal problem to me.