courtesy of Rußen
I’m not a wealthy woman, but I’m not poor either. I own my own home, and I only work part-time. Then again, a lot of people who are 66 work part-time.
My husband has a relatively good job, and, as he’s six years younger than I am, he still works full-time. He isn’t a free loader. He gives me money without my asking for it, and I, in turn, provide him with a comfortable place to live in. My place isn’t large or fancy. It’s just a respectable home. I own two four-family houses on 13 acres. We live in the smallest unit on the property because I decided to maximize my income by renting out the other seven units. In today’s market, rents aren’t that high, and my property taxes are through the roof. So, I hardly qualify as well-to-do.
Last night my ex tried to convince me that my husband only married me for my “money” and “property.” He pointed out that my husband’s ex was a lot poorer than I am and that he chose me over her because of money. The truth of the matter is that my husband’s ex had another man in her life and she wasn’t readily available to him when he wanted her. In addition, he and she just didn’t click strongly enough for him to want to marry her. With us, it was instant chemistry.
I just laughed the whole thing off because my ex’s motives are obvious. He wants me to believe my husband doesn’t love me so I would dump him. He practically said that. I responded that HIS significant other didn’t work for many years and might have married HIM for his money but that he never saw a reason to “dump” her, so why should I even consider dumping my new husband????
I love my husband and he treats me like a queen. Even though I ask for very little, he buys me flowers every week. He buys me jewelry and clothing. He takes me out to eat in expensive restaurants. He is so affectionate and so helpful. I have no doubt in my mind that he loves me. Maybe when he initially met me, he considered the fact that I have some property, but I really don’t believe my having a house and some property was a primary motivating force in his decision to marry me. It was more about chemistry and how well we get along.
Let’s be real. Very seldom do two people have exactly the same financial situations. My husband’s job more than makes up for the money I earn from my rental properties and from my part-time teaching job. My late husband was much better off than I was, and I’m sure some people thought I married HIM for his money - lol! By the same token, my first husband didn’t have much money and neither did I and we married in spite of this.
If you ask me, my ex is frustrated and jealous that he can’t see me when he wants to, so he is trying to put a flea in my ear in order to convince me that my marriage is going to fail. He even says very nasty things about my husband, and I suspect that, if the two of them ever met, they might actually come to blows - yikes!!!!
What’s your opinion? Don’t you think my ex is suffering from “sour grape-ititis”?