my girlfriend and i dated for a year but broke up. we are ta...

my girlfriend and i dated for a year but broke up. we are talking now trying to work on things but i dont know if i should go back to her. my heart is still hers but i get the feeling she jus doesnt want to let me go cause shes scared ill find someone else what do i do?

What was the reason for the breakup?
When was it?
Why have you two decided to "work on things" now?

we broke up because we were growing apart i called it off, the break up was a month ago. there are 3 reasons we decided to work it out. one i feel like i still need her and she still feels like she needs me. two, i still love her so much and she still loves me so much. and three is a reason jus for me, i feel if i leave her shell be like she was once before asking why and be so depressed, and i dont need all that right now

Could you explain the "growing apart" and the problems in the relationship in more detail? I am also not sure what you mean by the third reason, because being depressed from a breakup doesn't sound strange.

like we were fighting to much, and i jus got distance because i knew she was keeping things from me. everyone gets depressed after a break up yes but with her she constantly asks why and she jus wont leave it alone. and when i dont give her a answer she wants she jus keeps texting and calling

Ok, I understand the third reason now.

What were the fights about?
What was she keeping from you?

our fights were about little things, like why she would call me out in front of her friends, why she would change our plans to hang with them, if she was falling for someone else. things like that. she kept alot from me.. mainly she kept her feelings from me. like im here as her partner and best friend and she wouldnt tell me anything, like if she was hurting, is something pissed her off, what she needed, what she wanted, everything like that

Have you talked to her about not keeping her feelings from you? If so, what did she say?

i have. but she just looks at me and says it shouldnt matter to me

If it doesn't matter to you, then you should tell her that it matters because you don't want to fight or breakup again. See what she says to that. If she starts fighting over that, then you may want to think about why you want to stay. If she decides to talk though, then that should help the relationship.

im talking to her now and shes jus not making sense to me. shes saying that she wants to stay in it because she still loves me and she cant take seeing me with someone else but she isnt happy in it either. im thinking wow so wtf do i do..sit here and wait, because really i dont want to if thats the case i want to find someone thats better and actually wants me

you should tell her that it matters because you don't want to fight or breakup again.

What did she say to this?

she didnt say anything to it.. jus skipped to something else

So why do you love her again? Seems like she cares mostly about herself.

because shes been here for me through everything that ive gone through. and idk i jus still love her so much. like when we broke up i tried to talk to other gurls but i jus couldnt.. she was always on my mind

All right. Just keep in mind that she doesn't want to do any more than what she's doing now, so there will probably be more fights.

ok. thanx for your help. means alot.

You're welcome.