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Posted 8 Months, 2 Weeks ago #1
my husband has costanly cheated on me throughout our marriage and to make it worse it was with white women. Now when a black man cheates on his wife with a white woman that is a big No No! he did this a lot while i was pregnant and all. I was a very good wife I cooked, cleaned, took care of the kids and worked. At wich he took it all for granted. I have had three very good men to come across my life that all were let go because this piehole when he saw that someone else was interested ( after we broke up he would do this),he would come with this show and run them off . But then he would go back to the same thing. We dated for 6 years before we were married. For two years he never told his people and he took and continued to take the girls he was dating while we were married to meet his mother, sister , and father. All while we were married. Then to ad insult to injury I got him a apartment in my name so that he could have a place closer to work. So i thought ...I told him that he wouldnt have the place long cause the truth was gonna come out! It did . In the form of a felony charge that he got for leaving our daughter in his apt by herself while he went on a date.Our daughter came outside and one of the neighbors got her and called the police and it has gone down hill from here....Then to add insult, when I went to clean the apartment out the girls hair was all over his bed!! I'm black with short black hair . The bed was full of Long blond hair.I thought I was gonna go into labor right then..But the table have changed and he can't stand it. This came in January 2008 and my God if I knew that he was for me I would have left him a long time ago. We had just moved into our new place and it was income tax time(you know how we do during that time!!! New Furniture!). So i took mine and bought the bed rooms and dinning and my husband was suppose to get the livingroom and the other t.v.'s. Few weeks after he came to me and told me that one of his relatives needed a place to live . Being the christian that I am I said " sure". So his relative moved in and when he came to my bedroom door...He scared the heck out of me.! I said " Boy! What the heck have you been eating?!. Immediatly my hus band came and closed the door and shut me in my room. Three days later my husband all of a sudden moved out!! he got his return and Skied up..child. yeap you guessed it he went and laid up with a lady until they didnt get along anymore the he wanted to come back home.But he didnt have a home cause it was taken by his relative...I have never been showed so much love from a man! He treated me like a queen, He brought me flowers, He made me laugh, He helped with the bills, My kids, all kinds of things and he would always tell me that he was there to take my pains away. my husband showed up on my B-day and brought me a necklace and chain.I gave it back cause I did'nt want it. It is now June 28,2009 . My husband is here and we argue just about every day and his mother My husband)All have the nerve to call me a slut cause I don't want to be with my husband anymore and because I am still dating his relative. I want a divorce and he don't want to give me one.Do you think I am wrong for what I chose? I know what the bible says.. But i was the wife in all aspect of the word. He cheated and it was alright al long as his family saw him do it and now that the tables have turned, they can't stand it. Don't you think I deserve better. I just want to be happy before I die.
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Posted 8 Months, 2 Weeks ago #2
Yes, you deserve better, so why do you even stay with him? You said no to those three men for this?
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Posted 8 Months, 2 Weeks ago #3
It is to the point now that I just want to leave. just get on the bus and go find a small town somwhere and live with me and my kids. I have lost so much cause of this dude. the three men were chased off and they went on bout thier lives. But this one Is here to stay I can just feel it.
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Posted 8 Months, 2 Weeks ago #4
Do what you feel will relieve your suffering. Ask your kids what their opinions are.
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Posted 8 Months, 2 Weeks ago #5
All of my childre want to come with me. We have three together and i hav two from a previous and I feel that the only one that will give me issues is the babygirl..she is 9 and she loves her dad but she is also the one he got the felony behind ....So you see I have to be able to get far away or He will use the kids for an excuse and try to come back.....
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Posted 8 Months, 2 Weeks ago #6
Why haven't you already gone?
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Posted 8 Months, 2 Weeks ago #7
To answer your question it because I just moed and I mean in june! into my place . He was neer suppose to come here this was for me and my kids to start oer and he showed up one night. Its been heck eer since. He won't stop talkin about his relatie in my face and he thinks tha I need him..I pay the bills, buy the food, wash the clothes and all..... the way I see it I just want this over and done I want the divorce so i can move on with my life.
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Posted 8 Months, 2 Weeks ago #8
In that case, he should move, not you. Keep in mind that he could delay the divorce if it means it's his way into your place.
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Posted 8 Months, 2 Weeks ago #9
yes and we had a bad arguement this morning cause he is saying that he is not gonna leave. and he is using the kids card. He want me to pay the bills then I can leave him and the kids and go on. he is trying to change it up.I am so tired right now. I mean I don't get nothing cause of this man and he has caused me so much pain and whatever it is that he thinks he has set up for me I don't even want it...I just want to be by myself cause I don't have long to live and being with him is not gonna make my life any longer cause he causes me to much stress and this is somthing i just can't do .then he goes and tries to act like he is all Godly and that I'm the sinner . But nothin ever happens to me!
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Posted 8 Months, 2 Weeks ago #10
Find a place that you feel safe being in and let that be your home.
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Posted 8 Months, 2 Weeks ago #11
I want my place and I feel that I should not have to leave because of him...
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Posted 8 Months, 2 Weeks ago #12
Then make your place safe by making him leave instead.
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Posted 7 Months, 1 Week ago #13
I agree with you 100%. I believe you have made the right decision. I see you having two choices: (1) Accept the fact he will always cheat and live with it and accept and love him for who he is. Or (2) Leave him and don't look back (meaning never get back together with him - or do the wild thing either). I personally would choose (2). His cheating was pretty bad- leaving your daughter alone, getting another apartment, etc. is unforgivable to me. But many women can forgive and move on.
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Posted 7 Months, 1 Week ago #14
yes mam miss Terry,


I have forgiven him and now all I want to do is move on with my life and kids without him and this is what he cannot except, I have show him that I don't need him and this bothers him really bad because he need us. I was just diagnosed with a blood disorder the doctors think its sickle cell and he still gives me a lot of stress. Right now all I want to do is get somewhere for me and my babies to live in peace and out of texas. I want snow this year and thats where I wanna be . Please pray for me that my finances will line up for me to move net month.

God Bless.
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Posted 7 Months, 1 Week ago #15
I wish you the best and I hope you are able to move. I hope in the mean time that he moves out and does not live with you anymore, if you are ill- being stressed by living with him will make it harder on you! All my best- TerriAnn
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Posted 7 Months, 1 Week ago #16
thank you so much.
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