courtesy of joshua m. Neff
My husband is an auto body mechanic. My husband’s ex girlfriend comes from a large family. She has a few sisters and her parents are still alive. She has two daughters, as well.
Now, here’s the problem. Believe me I’m not exaggerating. Every other week, someone in her family has a car accident which involves damage to the body of a car. Every time this happens, my husband’s ex calls him and asks him if he could either pick up the car from her house or if she could drive the car down to his shop. Today, she called my husband and told him that one of her two daughters had a major car accident yesterday with a brand new Jeep for which she had paid $33,000 (with a car loan, of course). My husband tells me that this particular daughter is a bad driver. Well, for crying out loud, if she is such a bad driver, how does she manage to get these car loans when all she does is wreck cars?
The whole thing is beginning to make less and less sense to me as time elapses. Considering that she had told me two weeks before our wedding that, when she lost my husband to me, she had lost the “love of her life”, I believe she is trying to come between me and my husband.
My ex-bf contacts me on a regular basis too. But, he always calls her or sends me instant messages when my husband is home. He wants to remain in contact with me because we’ve always been very close, but he doesn’t want to do anything behind my husband’s back.
She, on the other hand, NEVER calls him here at home. She only calls him at his place of business. I asked him to suggest that she call him here, but she uses the excuse that she doesn’t want to bother him at home. My take: She just wants to maintain an independent relationship with my husband. And, the only way she knows how to get his attention is to either tell him she is dying of cancer or that she or a family member had wrecked another car.
It has gotten to the point of ridiculousness, if you ask me. I mean, how often can people have car accidents which involve BODY work? The awful part is that my husband doesn’t see the pattern... he doesn’t see that she is trying to get him back and that she is trying to come between us.
Even when she saw something about me on LinkedIn, a business networking site, she made some off the cuff remark about the nature of my “business” - aside from being a foreign language teacher, I’m a pianist/vocalist, implying that I might be a closet stripper!!!!
I’ve already mentioned on this site that my husband and I have sexual issues caused by his excessive watching of ***** and also by what I call his “perfectionism.” He finds it impossible to make love to me unless I position myself in the same position every single time we have sex. And, sometimes I don’t quite get it right and nothing happens. It makes me wonder if, although he and I are attracted to each other and enjoy each other’s company immensely, if something is going on between him and his ex. He totally denies that he and she are still intimate, but I often wonder. I know I’m somewhat insecure, but, considering the fact that he and I have sexual problems and considering the fact that she constantly has car problems, I really have to wonder about things.
Have you ever heard of a situation like ours? I’d welcome any comments you might have.