Try it with an aphrodisiac. The name comes from Aphrodite, goddess of love.

An aphrodisiac is a remedy that enhances the sexual drive or the sexual pleasure. It is thought that it enhances the sensitivity of the senses, like sight, touch, smell, sent, hearing and therefore also the sexual arousal and pleasure.

In the time of the Egyptians, 5000 years ago, people already knew herb mixtures that were used in perfume and massage oil, to arouse lust.

Different kinds:

Aromas

Food products

Herbs mixtures

Chemical means

Titillating Aroma’s

This can be in the shape of perfume or massage oil. The use of essential oils like sandalwood, lavender, patchouli and musk is expecially known.

Food products Food products that are known for their stimulating effect because of the shape:

- asparagus

- banana

- apricot

- peach

- celery

- garlic

Foods that have a stimulating effect because of their content:

- chocolate (as pure as possible)

- truffles

- champagne

- anis like drinks (ouzo, pernod, pastis) and of course the oysters and other sea fruit because of their vitamins and minerals.

Chemical means These are means like Viagra. Research has shown us that 30 % of the effectiveness of Viagra originates from the suggestion.

In other words, it is not the chemical that works but our belief in it…

Tricky question… But if you are looking for a few hints why men will or will not click on a profile, continue reading. We let them speak. They tell us openly about the do’s and don’ts of the female profile on the dating site.

Check out what men have to say about female profiles on dating sites. What turns them on and what turns them away…

We collected some direct quotes for you, so you gal’s can get the idea straight from the horse’s mouth…

One picture says more than a 1000 words.

“The picture determines if I want to read her profile or not. If it’s a photo on which it is clear that she is having a good time, I think we might have a good time together. If the photo is made especially for the profile, then it looks to stiff and serious. I simply skip a photo like that.”

Wesley, Software Engineer, 29 years old.

“A photo is the first thing that I look at. Honestly, it doesn’t matter what it says in the profile, if the picture doesn’t appeal to me. The photo should stir something in me, and then the profile will follow naturally.”

Mark, Financial Consultant, 30 years old.

“See to it that the picture is big enough and that it is easy to look at. Sometimes they are blurry, unclear or taken from too long a distance. For me definitely no picture in bikini or deep cleavage, then I am gone. It gives me the feeling that you are more involved with your body than anything else and that you are not ready for a serious relationship.”

James, Hotel Manager, 33 years old.

Choose the right username

“I like names that say something about the character of that person without the name trying to be hip or super funny.  Simplicity works better. I will click sooner on “karin555” than on “WfL450Greatgirlhere” or “Julia looks for her Romeo”. “

Ruben, Project Manager, 26 years old.

“Some names like “looking for Mr. Right” really seem desperate. Give me a first name or a name with a few numbers that is enough for me. Also I don’t find it necessary to try to be extra funny with a username, that is not really what counts.”

Jacob, Company Owner, 28 years old.

“I hate names that are too cryptic. I can really enjoy a name that is cleverly thought of, but it ends right there. After all, I try to find a nice date, not to do an exam.”
Jim, Detective, 30 years old.

Write an original profile

 “Originality is a determining criterion for me. Nine out of ten profiles look like each other.” We all love to go out and to sit at home sometimes; all of us are close to their families and friends. Just write something that shows more about your personality.”

Johan, Staff Member Bank, 33 years old.

“I mainly look for some humor in the profile and if her personality comes out a bit. There are so many people say they have a great sense of humor, but that doesn’t show at all in their profile. Online dating has to be fun, not some formal business".
Michael, Art Director, 25 years old.

“A profile that comes across relaxed, that gives me a warm feeling, plus a bit of humor always arouses my interest. It usually makes me want to know more about her. If it is a superficial and common profile, then I suspect that she won’t have much to talk about during a date.”

Alex, Human Recourses, 36 years old.

So, may be men are not as frivolous as women like to think…True, they plave great importance on the picture, b ut a good photo alone will not guarantee you a date, it takes personality too, and keeping it simple always helps.

Ready for an online date? With this freshly learned knowledge and tips, we wish you lots of luck!

More and more people that are looking for "the one" or just a nice date, use a dating site. Often, money has to be paid; sometimes the digital dating is free. Make a profile; add a picture and the search can begin. We asked you about your experiences. A little fewer than 400 people responded. Want to know what the dating public thinks about E-dating? Read below.

Here are the main answers and summaries answers we collected on E-dating.

1. Did it give you the result you wanted?
More than one third of the people that took part in this product measurement are satisfied with the dating site they used. The same percentage finds the site moderate to insufficient. The rest of the e-daters find the site sufficient.

2. Did the website give enough help and explanation how to use it?
To download a photo or movie, to enter the data of your ideal date. How does it work? Is it clear? 55 percent says yes. Most sites give a clear explanation. The percentage that judged the site as bad was 10 percent. The rest find the site moderate.

3. How was the search engine for potential partners?
Smoking – Non-smoking. Between 30 and 40. Blue eyes. Red hair. The search engine is a key part of a dating site. How satisfied are you with this? The result of this question is similar to the result of question 2. 56 percent judges the search engine on dating sites as "good". 11 percent finds them moderate to bad.

4. Were the possibilities to communicate with other people okay?
Once you found someone interesting, can you get in touch with him or her easily? More than half of the people say yes. Another third find the options sufficient. 15 percent thinks the communication possibilities on the dating site moderate to bad.

5. Can you present yourselves enough on the website?
To "sell" yourself is also important when looking for a date. For that, you need to make a profile. 57 percent were satisfied with the possibilities to make such a profile. Another 31 percent says they could sufficiently present themselves. More than 10 percent is not satisfied.

A summed up garding of the dating sites is Moderate.

Success stories
Oh yes… They are there, people that met each other on the Internet.

Ann writes:
4 years ago, after a bad experience with another man, I found my husband via One Hello. We are still very happy together.

Mr. or Miss Van Dam (Via Love@Lycos):
Found my partner here, we have a daughter together.

Miss or Mr. Friday (via New Love):
I found the love of my life via this site!

To start a relationship is easy; to end one is not that simple…

Everybody feels bad about that. That way you can sometimes hurt someone more than necessary. You don’t see a future anymore, too little things in common, grown apart, or just no fuel left in the love engine? Whatever it is, you know for sure that you two are not meant for each other.

So, time to break up, but how do you do that without harming someone a lot? Read below for some practical advise.

Relationships are easier to start then to finish. That is the reason why we stay longer in one, than we should. If, after a long time, one of the partners ends the relationship, it can be a total surprise for the other. If so, it hits the other person extra hard.

Partners should know what’s going on in their relationship. Before you break up, you should have talked about doubts and mistakes, to give each other the chance to improve or to work on the relationship. The love does not usually end all at once, so once you have doubts you should communicate them to your partner. Maybe together you can work it out. When you know you have tried, it is easier to put an end to an unsuccessful expereiment.

"The worst part of breaking up was the not breaking up when it should have been done", says Jane. "I thought everything was going okay, but slowly other things became more important to him, than me – fishing, football, and even sleeping." Jane can still get angry about the fact that her ex did not tell her anything when he started to like her less.

Some people give little hints within their relationships, they hope that the other person will see, by themselves, what their feelings are. This often results in unnecessary emotional agony. The reason why we give hints, and are afraid to tell someone straightforward, is because we want to spare the feelings of the other person. But hints make things unclear and give a person a feeling of humiliation when they find out that their partner didn’t not love them for some time.

You should end a relationship at the moment that you realize that the love is over, and not one minute later.

Breaking up by telephone or via e-mail or letters is really not done, that is cowardly and insulting.

Give concrete reasons why you break up, but be careful with feelings. Don’t put the blame on somebody else, and don’t hide behind clichיs like "it’s not you, it’s me".

After giving your message, you should give the other one time to respond. It can be that your ex needs more time to respond because he/she is devastated. Arrange another time so that the other one can react. Be careful: the other one should not get the idea that there is hope because of a meeting like this. If that is the case, then you should break this up radically and it is best to not meet again. Don’t give in to a suggestion "to try for a while longer". Showing insecurity will stir hope in the other person. And this hope will only cause more unnecessary pain. The less pain, the less damage, and the sooner the healing process can start.

See to it that you don’t get physical after the break up. A friendly hug, a tap on the shoulder is okay, but you should underline the "break up" message by giving up physicality.

Please never say, "We can still be friends". It is not that you cannot become good friends later, but in the beginning; it is ridiculous to think that you are good friends. You cannot even make the transition from relationship to friendship. This proposal after a break up is rather cruel. Let the contact between you take its course. Perhaps one dasy you will be friends, but for a start separation is the best thing.

The only clichי that you can keep in mind during a break up is, "Time heals all wounds". Therefore, you should give the other one time, and don’t open just healed wounds by interested phone calls, sms’s or e-mails.

Hundreds of books have been written about how to conquer him. But if he doesn’t turn out to be Mr. Right, the shelf in the bookshop with information on how to dump him is completely empty. That’s why we wrote these tips of “how to dump your boyfriend”.

There must be fifty ways to leave your lover, sang Paul Simon once. But a lot of women find dumping him such a difficult thing, that it takes them weeks, months and sometimes even years. Women are afraid to make the wrong decision, to hurt him, to be alone. So, they complain to girlfriends, but are scared to end the relationship.

Scary

Fear to dump a partner is typical for women. They hear that the chance to find a man to get married to is as big as the chance that you find that perfect cheap black dress for a party. To men they say, that a relationship does have its benefits, like sex at times, but that you also lose your freedom. Their chance to find a woman that wants to marry them is the same as the chance on rain in November. So, it is not so strange that women find ending a relationship a lot scarier than a man.
Okay, your decision is made: he cannot stay. But how do you tell him that? You can of course not answer his phone calls and hope that he understands the hint. Or while drinking beer in your jogging trousers pretend that you are frigid. But the best way is to just say that your relationship is over. But, there is one downside to this method: for some people it is the scariest thing to do.

Get prepared

  The ideal time to dump someone is on Friday between seven and eight p.m. in the evening: that’s when he has the weekend to lick his wounds. Another wisdom: there should only be two weeks between the decision to dump your man and the day that you actually do it.

On the days before "the big day" you have to take care of a few things. By sadness, tension and jealousy your boyfriend can show a side of himself that you have never seen before. So, take away your things, subtle though, because you don’t want him to get suspicious. Demand, with an excuse, money that he owes you back,  and pay your own debts back. Also not unimportant: get rid of incriminating evidence. Like the nude pictures that you let him take on a hot night.

Weakness

If you try to end your romance without him being present, he will for sure find a way to see you again. He might be showing up at an unwanted moment, for example when your new lover sneaks out of the house at crack of dawn.

How to dump him? Never do it by fax or by e-mail. You never know to whom he will forward your letter. And per telephone, that’s just weak and too risky because of uncontrollable variables.  A letter seems ideal, but you never know for sure if you’re to be ex will receive it. The following thing will happen: After a week of silence you decide to call him.  Although you swore to yourself that you wouldn’t talk about the letter, you hear yourself asking if he had any intention of responding? His answer is: ‘Well, no’. There is only one guarantee that we can give you: after the conversation is over you have the feeling that you were dumped.
The personal goodbye has the absolute preference. That way you show him the respect that you deserve, and it guarantees that you both feel that things have been handled well. If you ever felt something for your boyfriend, you owe him this.


Reputation

If you succeeded to end it with some pride, you will probably still have guilty feelings, doubt or self-pity. Don’t let it bring you down though. However miserable the world looks like after a break up, you can be sure of the two following things: with time everything will be better and you will really meet another man. Don’t forget that there is only one thing worse than dumping someone. That is being dumped.
The place to dump him is never at your house. It is better to break up in a restaurant while enjoying your last meal. Start talking about it when you reach desert, to make sure that you are gone within the hour. Don’t drink and pay the bill yourself. Another option: do it at his place. Before you start your goodbye speech, you can fill up your bag with all your possessions you forgot to take last time.
An advice on how to dress: like it is Christmas, but not too much.  If you look good, you feel more confident. Timeless elegance like Audry Hepburn is the best. And, don’t forget your sunglasses to hide your tears once you’re on the street.

So, there you are: single, alone. The first period you will probably feel a little alone or even a bit depressed. But despite this, try not to become friends with your ex.  He will not be happy with being offered the booby prize and it is cruel to hold on to him. You’re only trying to feed your own ego by seeing to it that he still likes you. Sex with your ex is also not done. He will probably interpret the sex as a sign that you want him back. On the other hand, work on your public relations. The one, who is dumped, usually gets more support, than the one who dumps. You cannot prevent people from gossiping, but you can influence what they are talking about.