problems in my long distance relationship

I live in the UK and my bf is Canada. We are having a long distance relationship since the past one and a half year. We have been together for 3 years.
We have been having ups and downs in our relationship since the past few months.
He suggested that we should try doing cyber sex but I have disappointed him everytime.
I don't feel comfortable doing it. He has tried to make me comfortable many times, but I've disappointed him always.
Now he says that he cant even talk dirty with me with the fear that he will look like a fool and a sex obsessed dickhead.
there's no romance left in our relationship now. its not like the same before.
When we were together, we had the most amazing time. But now, there's no fun left. What should I do to revive the spark in my relationship. Please help!

You said that it was a long-distance relationship for the past year and a half, but then you were together with him for three years. Did one of you suddenly move? I ask this because you said "when we were together," so I'm assuming you two were actually near each other.

Also, I don't see why you should be pressured into doing something for him if he is disappointed while you don't feel comfortable. How has he been trying to make you go along with it?

We both are from India. We studied in the same college and were dating for a year and a half. I left for the UK in Jan 2008 and he left for Canada a few months later.
We have been sexually intimate when we were together and I did not feel shy or uncomfortable during that time.
But whenever he asked me for cyber sex, I always disappointed him. I am too conscious of my body, now that I have put on a lot of weight. He has tried to make me understand by saying that I dont need to be shy or conscious abt my body as he likes me the way I am.
Now, the situation is such that... he has stopped talking to me as he says that he hasn't got anything new to say..It has become so monotonous that there's no fun left.

Is there anything else that you two have talked about recently besides sex?

yes..we do talk a lot apart from sex...
but he's just too mad at me right now because of my unresponsive behaviour.

So what if you're unresponsive? You shouldn't be forced into doing something that you're not comfortable doing.

urm, i used to have a long distance relationship b4.. im from malaysia and my gf is an aussie girl which live in australia too..

everything was going fine at 1st, all the msgs, calls, web cams..

but after a while(3month 2 be exact) she start to changed.. well we definitely never see each other in real world nor touch each other.

and she doesnt want to do cybring(like webcam sex etc). and this thing keep us further n more further n time.. and we broke up >_<

so i really think that u have to actually meet him, at least once. try to arrange a meet up, u could share money for tickets or something.. holiday together would be great..

because to me long distance relationship need to trust ur couple more than regular relationship.
i know my oppinion wont do much help, but i wish u gud luck ^^ dun give up !

Yah with the long distance relationship you have to trust each other. That is the main key. If your Bf ask you to do Cyber *&^ well, why not? at least do it once a month, tease him a little. or if your not comfortable with showing your body to webcam try to do the phone $e*. But if it is always, I meant he ask always, that is not normal. He needs some help. Visit him. suprise visit. Anyways.. Good luck...

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