Secret Lover/Friend.. I need advice

I'm a 25 y/o female from Miami. I've been involved with a man romantically for a year and a half but nobody knows about our relationship. I can't go into detail about why we have to keep this a secret. He's not married or anything but if people found out then it could hurt his career, etc. I had known for a few years before we started anything sexual but had fallen for him way before that. When the opportunity presented itself I took it and things have been very hot with him since then. However, he has no idea how much I care about him. We were always friends, so I know he gets that much but I'm scared that if he found out that I was in love with him our relationship would change. It kills me not to be able to tell this guy that he's everything to me. I've had my share of relationships, whether it has been boyfriends, friends with benefits or whatever but this is completely throwing me off track in my life. I know he recently started seeing another woman, but the terms of our current relationship are strictly "friends with benefits" so I can't really say anything. The other woman has no idea that me and him have the type of sexual relationship that we do. She thinks we are just friends. I love having this secret, but at times it gets difficult. I get sad at times when I think that he is waking up next to her and not me. He'll swing by my house, we'll hook up and then he'll go over to her house for a movie. It sucks and I'm not quite sure how to handle it. I don't want it to end, I want him to know how I feel but I can't bring myself to tell him. Anyone got any words of wisdom?

Hi MiamiTemp, welcome to the forum

Hmmm there are not words of wisdom in something like this... To be a friend of benefit while wanting to be more is a startingpoint that will leave you under every circumstance hurt in the end if he didn't and doesn't want more.

I understand you feel pain looking reality in the eye, but just think about that other woman who has no idea she is being cheated on.....

Personally I wouldn't want to have anything to do with cheating liers.

I am sorry to be harsh, but this is the 'sound of honesty' speaking.

I would cut ties with him if i were you. No matter how difficult and no matter how shattered I would feel.