shes talking to me again

me and my ex went out for just over 2 years. everything was like a dream. then she went off to college and decided she didnt want to be with only one person for her entire life, introduced to drinking, partys, new people her age and being on her own for the first time in her life. (i was her first everything, and im two years older) i of course was very hurt and she cheated on me and i confronted her about this and we broke up (even though it was going to happen the cheating made it worse). i know during our time together she was as happy as can be, she would always take pictures of us making faces together and we were just happy. now after 5 months of NC she is talking to me first asking if i wanted to be friends and from there the first day we went back and forth with messages 3 times just catching up. she wrote to me like she would normally speak to me when we were going out and im doing the same, of course minus all the i love yous. she said in the first one asking for friendship that she felt we should reconnect in some way. so this has been going on for a week but now its slowed down to one message each a day. she has midterms this week and has told me she has a lot of work so maybe that could be why. what i want to know though is how should i act on this. i still love her after everything and i would do anything to get her back still. i just dont want to mess it up in the process. the first two messages she mentioned about the break up and the second when she was explaining why she contacted me (her friend broke up with her bf only he did it and not her and she said that made her think of everything) she said he just couldnt do the open relationship thing, understandably. is she trying to see if im over her or is she trying to see if im giving her a clean slate to start over. she hasnt been in a relationship since me but i know she has been fooling around with other guys.

now the part that gets me thinking is that during our time together she said she didnt want to go through her entire life with only one person and we never faught and always got along, without exception.

do you think that now shes experienced what else is out there shes coming back to me? or does she just want to be friends or is she just keeping me as a backup plan? i just want to know what her motive is for talking to me and what is possible because honestly i dont know if i can continue to talk to her unless there is some hope of her falling back in love with me. i just miss being with her in a relationship so much. any ideas on her motives?

please anyone, what should i do? how should i treat this? this is my first relationship and i dont want to screw it up.

well if she talks to you. just talk to her to make her curious of what your up to, talk a bit then say you have to go..ask her qustions but when she asks you dont give much away... be busy you have time for her... but not as much time as you did when you were together.

its all through messages, the first day we went back and forth 3 times but it seems to have slowed down once i have her the impression that i was over her and fine with everything. do you think she only contacted me because her concious finally got the best of her?

I really think the best thing for you to do is be honest, always. Tell her her contact with you is confusing to you. Ask her what her intentions are and go from there. That way, if she is not thinking of how this is affecting you, she will now---- and if she is just being selfish/feeling you out without intention of reconciliation, she will probably put herself in check.