Should he stay or should he go?

I need advise, I am driving myself nuts! My past relationships have been so dysfunctional and messed me up so bad that I do not know if my problems with my boyfriend are real, or because of low self esteem and my sabotage mechanism kicking in. My bf is a great guy and for the most part treats me great. I feel neglected sometimes but just because men are selfish. I have a couple issues, first of all I have found that I am so jealous. I read a text message he sent to a psychic that said who should I be with, I still love my ex-wife but my girlfriend treats me good. This killed me and when I confronted him with it he said he was just hammered and did not mean it. He told me he loves me and I am who he wants to be with. But he talks about her constantly and I am so afraid that I am going to be left in the dust if she even hints she wants him back. So one huge issue, the other issue is he drinks a lot. Not a mean drunk by any means, in fact he is nicer and more loving but society and protocol says that its not ok to be with a drinker. I knew when we first started dating he drank sometimes but then he moved in with me and I ve seen how much and how often. What should I do, I really love this man and I am really afraid of being alone again, how do I get through these issues or are they too big to even try to resolve? Help please!!

Have he and his ex-wife actually divorced? If so, when and for what reasons? If he is talking about her constantly, then it's not just being "hammered": He is actually thinking about her.

you do not sound happy, prob need a break from him.

I agree with guy! when u text a psychic its because you want answers! not because u're hammered. I've done it before and it was because i was thinking about my ex and i wanted some answers so think carefully