Hello everyone!I'm new here, and I'm looking for some insight.Last Fri(a week from yesterday), me & my boyfriend got into an argument.I've been dating him for 2 1/2 years,& I love him with all my heart.I have 3 kids from a previous marriage,& he's a single father of 1 child that lives with him full time.Recently, my children had some psychological problems that were brought on from my prev marriage,from the abuse they & myself went through for over 10 years. I had to take family medical leave from work so they would be able to get the treatment they needed(this had gone on since Jan.of this year,& FINALLY I'm back to work full-time).It caused me to become behind in a lot of my bills. I sought help from the Veterans Benefit Fund (I'm a veteran of the U.S. Navy),& thank God, they're helping me with my rent & utilities(sorry for the long intro, but I'm trying to give a little bit of background).The time that all of this has been going on, my boyfriend said he supported me 100% & said I was doing the right thing. Well, actions speak louder than words. My kids haven't been the greatest with him, & mind you, his daughter hasn't been the greatest with me either, but I love him, & I've always thought, so what?Ya know? It happens & it's common. Kids give the "new" significant other a hard time. We dated a year before I got my kids back (bitter custody battle)& since the kids have been around (for a year & a half), he's been a pill, but was trying hard to be there for the kids at first, but got frustrated & started to kinda slip I guess. Well, he wanted everything to be perfect. He couldn't understand why 2 of the 3 kids didn't think he was the bees knees. My son just loves him though! One of the two kids that still didn't like him that much came around, & she was starting to talk to me saying that she wouldn't mind it if we got married, but my youngest daughter was still saying she didn't like him.I was like, oh well, tough, & what can you do? So, he kept taking it to heart. It bothered him. He kept saying that my oldest daughter was mouthy (she's almost 15 &she's a flippin' teenager! What gives?),& that he felt my youngest daughter was running my life with her psychological problems,& I wasn't trying hard enough to "survive". I told him that no matter what happens, even if I lose my house, I'd still "survive", & I'd just have to get another place. All materialistic b.s. It was just ridiculous. He had been drinking,& he didn't want to talk about any problems I had. He said, are you done yet? He said that he wanted our time together to be stress free,& that my life was stressing him out. I said that's not normal life! Everything has ups & downs & you can't just ignore it. Well, I was crying because he told me that he couldn't see marrying me because of how my kids are (ugh!i felt stupid!)so I scooped up my kids & put them in the car. He told me to "just f---ing leave" & slammed the door in my face. I was so hurt. I was reeling. I was like, what just happened? He had a cell phone on my family plan with Sprint, & I called them & disconnected his phone & mine. It was rash, I know, but I was like, why am I doing him any favors? I felt he owed me an apology. So, no see, hear,speak or anything since last Friday until today. I went there unannounced just to pick up two of my kids bikes. He was cold, but polite. He had a new cell (LOL figures), & I was as nice as pie & said thanks. I asked him if he needed anything from me,he said no,I said bye & left. My son even hugged him.He's so stubborn.He's acting like we're done (we broke up for two wks last yr & he acted same way but we got back together becuz I made the moves. He did just as he's doing now...nothing ). Should I leave things the way they are? I feel I did nothing wrong & I'm mad, but I'm hurting & I miss him terribly.
