Situation: making the first move at a good time.

I Need advice with making the first move at a good time.

Here's my situation so far:
I've been separated for a few months now. Me and my ex are in good terms.

Before our separation, I've started to get close to a friend (of both me and my ex). Nothing ever happened between us but after spending more time with him, I realised I was starting to have strong feelings for him.

My friend's situation: He has a girlfriend.

One day, I decided to write my friend a letter and brought it to him telling him about my fellings.

I got an email from him a couple of hours later telling me that he was feeling the same way towards me. Although I'm not in a rush to get in another relationship yet, I really like this guy. But I still need some time off and he needs to fix things on his end before anything happens.

He is ending things with his girlfriend but he also wants to end things on a good term as well so he's taking somewhat his time. And I completely understand his point.

Now, me and my friend occationally get together to talk and do some activities. Nothing has happened yet between us, we're just friends and we want to get to know each and other more before anything more happens... and he's still finishing off things with his ex.

We have a lot respect for each and other; he respects the fact that I want some time alone since my breakup and I respect the fact that he's still somewhat involved with his ex.

We've been talking about our feelings towards each and other. We both agree that it's hard to continue getting together as friends cause the tension is definately growing between us but we'd still rather spend time together till the timing is right on both sides. We are playing things safely but I think we both really want this to happen without losing the respect we have for each and other.

Now my question is, after he tells me that he's done with his ex, how long should I wait before going to the next step? Should I wait till he makes the first move? I don't really want to seem desparate but I do like this guy and I know he also likes me. I just don't want to mess things up.

THanks for the help in advance!

Well, you are both waiting. Him to break up nicely with his girlfriend. And you to be ready for another commitment.
Well, if he's broken up and you are ready the time is right.

If you're not ready then the time will be right when you are. If you both can't act out of respect for others. Well, then that should be easy. When it's respectful to be with each other go for it. And only you two will know when that is.