So here it is; I'm 25 shes 21 she has a son who is 2 from an...

So here it is;

I'm 25 shes 21 she has a son who is 2 from another guy. We have been together for 4 months.

I have dated alot of girls longest being 4 years. She has dated alot of guys longest being me.. We fell in love at first sight, but she thinks we fight all the time she is an alcoholic so I am a little worried when she goes out partying, we fight when she drinks about anything and everything. She says she doesn't know what she wants. She says she hasn't been happy for a week but all the while I thought we were good talking about the future banging like rabbits. So after she told me shes not happy I asked her why? she doesn't know.. She says somtimes shes madly in love with me and other times she isn't.. She has felt this way with every other boyfriend but never told them how she felt just broke up with them.. I have taken responsibility for her child as my own... I am the only boyfriend her family has actually liked. She says she doesn't want a break or date other people or lose me. I ask her what the boundaries are when shes like this? she responds with "I don't know" I ask her how am I supposed to act towards you? she responds "Be yourself" how am I supposed to be loving caring and affectionate with someone who doesn't know what she wants?

So if there are any women in here that have felt the way have described my girlfriend please respond, you are the only people I need to hear from. I am a veteran of dating I know all the games except this one.. I want a family shes the one I want with just this small problem.

She has also mentioned she wouldn't mind seeing a counellor for her issues. But what kind of counselor are you supposed to see when your brain acts the way hers does??

I will end this serieds of questions now with hopes of a response that can possibly help either our relationship or confirm my thoughts that she will never be happy for the rest of her life.. Thank you for your time reading all of this

I dated someone who is an alcoholic once. They had so many emotional issues swimming in their mind and they used alcohol to numb the pain. I asked her what her thoughts on seeing a therapist were and she refused to see one. It is encouraging that your girl is willing to visit with one. You could probably visit with any family therapist and go from there – there are also 12 step group programs she can tap into. But it is important to realize that she needs to want to fix herself, you can’t do it for her – be there and support her. Good luck.

It sounds like to me that she may have some issues in the past that causes her not to want to get to close to men. Has she told you much about her childhood?