someone please help me.... I met a man four months ago he pu...

someone please help me....
I met a man four months ago he pursued me so passionately, and we just seemed to bond, the last three to four weeks, he seems to be drifting away, thinking of ''an old topless dancer'' and running to see if his married neighbor girl is in her yard.... even having her and her husband over to his Patio for pizza and wings, she was very rude to me and so i think they have had something in the past... she has lived next door five years, he gets tears in his eyes if her name is mentioned even casually....one night he was in what i call pining mode over her.... i got bored just sitting on his couch at his house so i left but missed him so much, just did not feel loved....
please help me someone answer, this is the first man i have been with that i have had these strong feelings for... I was over last nght, he did not even notice i was all dress up for him and sat on couch and was sort of in a trance ignoring me while we watched t.v. on his couch... this man was obsessed with me for the first two months of this thing....he also leaves his front door open and talks really exageratedly loud, like maybe he wants his married neighbor, Cindy, to hear him talking..
please someone respond, i posted before and no one did....

You need to do what you can in order to refrain yourself from thinking about him. I know it is hard because you love him but you need to go out with your friends, be with your family, just be with people that love you.

Also, no where in your post says that he has tried to contact you. Once he tried to contact you, either by phone, email, etc. you can go about trying to work things out with him.

For now I say just leave him alone, it sounds like he has some stuff he has to think about. In the meantime you should not wait around for him. I hope that helps.

Kind Regards,
JM

Hello,
thank you so much!!!!!.... he does call me asking me over everynight...so i go over, but wonder if its just to comfort him emotionally....as he wants me over every night.
So so true need to quit thinking of him so much see family more and friends again.

Thanks, again!!

Denise in Arizona.

If he is emotionally unavailable to you, then you need to back off and not come running to him every time he calls.

If he isn't willing to pursue you and make YOU #1 in his life...if he is that emotional over another woman...then you need to respect yourself and take your heart back. HE IS USING YOU. You can do better.

Break it off and move on. It will only hurt for awhile, but you will be much happier in the long run. Don't you want to be with someone who is in love with you? Give yourself a chance to find someone who will truly love you. This guy isn't that guy.