Talking with an ex..

Hiya first post here and it seems like a very good site

So anyway, me and an ex have been talking again recentley. She's not really an ex but thats all i can think of how to describe her as we dated a few times but it didnt turn into anything and we fell out.

So anyway we've started talking again, and to me its fairly obvious she has feelings for me. She keeps talking about sex, drops the fact that she is single and asks if i like girls that she sees me talking to. Now i admitted i liked her again last night, and she came up with some shit that she was a nun (she was joking, obviously). Now im not really sure what to do, should i ask her on a date, do something else completley that im missing, or do you think or am i just over reacted totally?

Sorry for the long post

I've seen longer posts no worries

Anyway, seems like she is into you. First thing is, something went wrong before, analyze it and try not to repeat the same mistake.

Don't go confessing just yet, girls are complicated. Once she knows you want her, she expect you to chase her. Let her chase you once in a while. The more she put the effort of wanting you, the more she will appreciate you. On the contrary, the more you tell her your feelings, the less she need to put in effort, thus, the less she would appreciate you comparing to you appreciating her.

Make any sense?

Yeah i see

Women eh, makes no sense at all. What went wrong the first time was that she got scared (or so she says) because she didnt want to hurt me and vice versa and we ended up arguing about it alot. Do you think she could just be trying to make sure i dont do the same thing again?

Probably, I don't get women 100% too.

But through my experiences, when a girl tells me she doesn't want to hurt me, sounds more like shes telling me to chase her and indulge the pain. Girls love that, the chase that is.

Well why would she tells you that in the first place? Maybe that has changed, considering she started to initiate contact with you, talking about topics like sex and stuff.

Im under the impression she still had some feelings for her ex, and after we stopped talking she went back to him and he hurt her again so thats quite possible.

Another problem may be that im changeing schools (Not moving) so i wont see her as much and as its almost the end of the year i dont want to leave this to long which sucks a bit.

Ooh, theres an ex. In that case, keep your distance. It might happen again. Until she truly get over her ex, then its okay for you to make a move. Before that, don't be her safety net, shes getting hurt by her ex is her problem, if she is wise, she'll stop getting hurt again by him. Hang in there, she'll come to her senses. Be cool.

Yeah she claims to be over him though, which she told me herself which just makes me even more confused

This is what she said:

Yeah she claims to be over him though, which she told me herself

This is what she did:

after we stopped talking she went back to him

Yeah, but she told me this after she went back they split up etc so thats all over now.

Well, then I guess it's OK to dating then as you mentioned earlier. You'll get a better idea of where the ex and you stand.

Meaning, you should always consider the risk involved. She might end up doing the same thing back to you.

If you are willing, then its not a problem. Go with it, swept her heart till she move on completely. All the best.