this girl has a boyfriend

I have a problem. I really like this girl that has had this boyfriend for like 3 years. i first met her a little more than 2 years ago when i started working at my job. i never thought anything about her other than she was a co-worker but getting to know her for a couple years i cant stop thinking about her and i really like her. were both young, 20 and in college. we are majoring in the same thing in college, we also have a lot of things in common including music, tv, hobbies, etc. everytime that i used to see her at work i always got a small vibe from her, but never thought anything from it. she told me that she wanted me to come to her college so that we could be "bff" but this was more than a year ago but even now she still wants me to come. she left the job a few months ago to go to another job of the same thing just a different company. i still keep in touch with her and go visit her at work and go out to dinner about once a month because of school. anyways there are little things that are making me confused, shes giving me mixed signals. some of the things are when i visted her at work everytime i went to visit her she would always say she is "happy now" because i was there, then there is when we go out to dinner when i look into her eyes shes stary eyed and there seems to be a connection, and when i say things she always laughs and looks right into my eyes, also she never brings her boyfriend up when we are "together", and the last time i was out with her i paid for dinner but she was playful and said she was mad at me for paying and when we walked outside and were saying goodbye to each other there was silence for like a minute like she was looking for something from me then she decided to give me a hug for the first time. i still talk to her just about everyday online. but ive fallen for her and shes all i think about what do i do now?

you and i must be living parallel lives right now. this girl i love who's pretty close to your age does the exact same stuff to me. she says i'm her bff and she loves me so much. and she wasn't lying because we got in a fight once to the point where we both said we'll just stop being friends altogether and she started crying for a few minutes. i meant a lot to her, it seems. but she doesn't want to date me but dates everyone else which i'm fine with "sometimes".

only advice i can give you is to either accept it the way it is because she only sees you as a best friend or just keep your distance. having stuff in common doesn't make you a couple. it's the biggest myth we learn from TVs and movies that if we try to have common interests or do things for a girl that she'll like you more. It's false and I have all my female friends to back me up on that because they have nothing in common with their boyfriends. Girls will either think of you as more than a friend or not. It's nothing to do with you. So if she's not interested and you want something more, then it's best to walk away. But you enjoy the friendship, then you can stay but don't expect it'll be anything more.

The thing is that i dont know if she is interested because i havent made any move and she has no idea how i feel about her. also some other things are she came home from school last week for the first time in months and i was basically the first one she saw because she wanted to go to dinner with me the night she came in, dont you think she would want to see her boyfriend first? also during the summer i asked her to do things spur of the moment on saturday nights and she said yes. wouldnt you think she would hang out with her boyfriend instead of me? these are some other things that have me confused as well.

Then you should ask her at dinner. I've had female friends who went to see me before she went to see their boyfriends. Girls can be attracted to a certain individual but may not necessarily want to be with them that much especially later in the relationship. It depends on the girl but I've known girls hang around me because I'm entertaining, conversational and fun but their boyfriends aren't but she's attracted to them. What you gonna do, right? There are millions of girls out there.

But in your situation, I would just come out front and tell her how you feel. It seems like you two know each other well enough for that without it being too awkward. But odds are it's exactly like in my scenario. I could be wrong so that's why you ask first.

how do you think i should bring it up to her? should i just come out and say are you interested in me? or bring it up a different way? then do i just come out and say look ive got to tell you something and say i really like you or should i bring that up a different way as well? this is my problem i dont know how to bring these things up?

how do you think i should bring it up to her? should i just come out and say are you interested in me? or bring it up a different way? then do i just come out and say look ive got to tell you something and say i really like you or should i bring that up a different way as well? this is my problem i dont know how to bring these things up?

If you can get together with her, tell you you have something important to say and say it.

What do you think is the better thing to say are you interested in me or would you consider going out with a guy like me? then after one of those go from there and tell her my feelings?

Well, it's something I wouldn't do in public. You don't want to cause a scene. You can do it like right after dinner at a more private area. But you do have to realize what could happen afterwards. I told a girl once that I really liked her and things didn't go all so well so be prepared for it.

Do you think its ok to tell her that i like her but i understand that you are already taken but keeping this to myself was killing me and i needed to let you know because if i didnt i would have always wondered what if? or is this to cliche?

If you say it calmly, she'll understand. It's not cliche when you're just trying to be honest. It happens sometimes where you like your friend more than just a friend. I'm sure it's happened to everybody before so it's understandable.

I mean just read your topic man! "this girl has a boyfriend" I understand your feeling and everything but; Have you ever met her boyfriend? I have friends just like the girl you are talking about but they have boyfriends and I respect that... You know! Like I said I understand the way you feel, but just ask her random question about her boyfriend and see if they still together or maybe she likes you in a different way...
But good luck!