URGENT ADVISE NEEDED!!!

After ten years of marriage, my husband has decided to get a divorce since we cannot have children and he wants a family.
He has a daughter (18 years old) who was born out of wedlock and he claims that he did not have a chance to be part of her life while she was growing up. I had three sons.
We separated three weeks ago and my life has been turned upside down. Before we got married I made sure he knew I could not have any more children and he told me that he already had her daughter and that was all he needed. Now he says he changed his mind and he does want a family.
I am finding very difficult to deal with this situation and more so since he calls daily to make sure I am ok. I am so confused, sometimes I feel like not answering the phone (and I have done that) but he continues calling until I answer. Everyday is the same conversation and I just don't know what to do.
I love him dearly but I just don't know how to handle this situation.
His family played a large role in our separation since they want him to leave me and start a new life.
I want to say we had a good marriage, we get along perfect, we never argued, sex was good and we have lots in common other than the fact that I am 22 years older than him.
Any advice will be greatly appreciated.

Post edited by: cubangirl, at: 2008/02/17 23:55

Post edited by: cubangirl, at: 2008/02/17 23:56

Post edited by: cubangirl, at: 2008/02/22 23:26

Post edited by: cubangirl, at: 2008/02/22 23:27

Post edited by: cubangirl, at: 2008/02/22 23:27[b]

Post edited by: cubangirl, at: 2008/03/01 12:53

Cubangirl, welcome to the forum


I'm sad to hear about that. From your posting I get the feeling he is listening more to his family than he does to his heart.

I would make a decision if I were you: tell him to leave you alone and stop phoning since he's breaking your heart by breaking away but not letting you go. Tell him there are two choices: he let you go or he comes back

ayngel:
Thank you for your advise it is greatly appreciated.

let me know what went on, Cubangirl and good luck and fingers crossed for you