What do i do?!?! this is pretty complex!!

Ive had this girl ive loved for soo long an she loved me for so long too.. over 10 years. shes like a high school sweet heart.i even named my sister after her... we dated off and on a few times. she now has a baby which she is 2 yrs old. i love this girl so much but i cant stand the fact that she has a baby,shes tied with the father of the baby for life, and that we cant get any alone time ever again.she and I both wish the child was ours but its not. or at least i think she wishes it was our child, i think she said it to me but i could be wrong.

And i am jealous of the father being in the life of my One True Love! if i could i would tell him never call again your done with child support the baby is now ours... but i know that could never happen. What really hurts the most about the father is that hes 25 and its his 5th child and his oldest child is 12 years old... it doesnt mean anything to him. the other 4 children are in another state over 24 hrs away if you where to drive. he never sees them.

every relationship Ive ever had Ive thought about this girl at least every 3 months and in some cases even more. i had a serious relationship that was 4 years and during the middle of that relationship i found out that My True Love! got pregnant and right away i got extremely sad and thought "that should be me and her!!".

For some reason i want to have a family with her and we tried to have a baby and we have only been back together less the 2 weeks. I dont know why im thinking like this and what could cause it.

The child cries when the mother sits on my lap and cries when we hug. I cant stand it!! I know things will never be the same again. I cry constantly about the fact she has a baby and im almost 25 and shouldnt be cry at all!. Ive tried to post questions on yahoo answers and the best answer i got was"you gatta move on".

Shes not a rich girl by any means and i do really well for my self at my age. Alot better then 90% of the people we both know. So i dont know if shes trying o hold on to me knowing i can provide a better life style for her and her baby or if she really loves me.

How do you deal with this?

why do i want to have a baby an start a family with her when theres so much that bothers me about the situation?

Do i want a baby with her to comfort me some how which could actually make things worse?

how do i deal with the father being there an them fighting on the phone once and a while?

should i go see a Doc to talk to could this help?

do i need to move on from this?

and If i really do need to move on.. how can i say this to her with out her getting mad or really hurting her?


im so hurt... any type of response to this will help.

Roullette welcome to the forum

Practically there is nobody that tell you what is best for you because no-one can look into your heart. Given the facts - and I mean pure facts you list above without feeling the sentiments you feel - I would opt for moving on. However if that didn't work during the 10 years you already loved her I have doubts you can make yourself do it now.

Best would be to have an open talk with her laying all your cards on the table.