What the HECK should I do???

I broke up with my girlfriend and haven't spoken to her since July of last year. Thing is, we were together for 3+years. It was awesome at first, then got rough, but we stuck it out through some tough times. Now, I dumped her for another one out of frustration of how my girlfriend was treating me..believe me it was really bad at the time. She begged me to reconsider and she swore she would change. Well, I said no. Here is the thing. The one I thought was a good change, ended up being too crazy..literally! Now I miss my ex and she has a boyfriend of her own. This I would expect since I ended it. I have a friend who saw her the other day with him,,he swore it was me. She picked a guy that looks like me. I can't stop thinking of her and I'd like to talk to her again. I want her to be happy, but should I say anything?? I still have feelings for her! Help!!

You didn't gave her a chance while she begged and willing to change for you. If you were in her place right now, would you consider getting back with yourself?

Usually, the dumpee (you are the dumper) are the one having hard time moving on with their lives, period. No matter how hard is it for you, don't ever compare what it is to her. This will only reduce the chance for you getting back with her.

3 years of memories can't be faded easily. She might still have feelings for you. But doesn't mean she will accept you back.

I had been in a 2 year relationship. She broke it off, I tried changing and even stupidly tried giving her a second chance. But I can't be waiting forever. Now, I won't take her back.

But shes a girl, it might be different since girls usually take longer to move on rather than guys. If she still have whats called leftover feelings for you, with the right approach there are still a chance.

You know her for 3 years, you know what her likes and dislikes. Put that into good use if you want her back. Show her effort. Show her everything if you want her back. You might get lucky, who knows?

I used to bend over backwards to meet her wants. I worked two jobs and what sealed the deal of letting her go was she called me and asked me to meet her at her work place New Year's Eve before 12..I hurried and hurried and her workplace was at the other side of town. I called and said I might be a few minutes later than 12 but wanted to spend the time with her. Well, when I got there she was gone...not seen until 12pm the next day, didn't leave a number with her kids or anything. She went with some girl coworkers to a party. When I approached her, she said too bad, you were late..What a pain back then! Now she swears she's changed, but can I believe this??

Hmm. She doesn't really know that now does it? Or perhaps she didn't care. She only wanted you to be there by 12. That is a pain in the ass. She might've jumped into random conclusions as why you are late. What goes on in a girl's mind and heart is the least I would know.

The thing is, girls love nothing but the feeling of being chased by the man they love. When she said you were late, are you sure that she didn't want you? Do you honestly think by letting her go would be the best decision? Seems like you're rather angry about the incident and you alone decided it was best to end it. You know her best, if you think she is capable of such change, then its up to you. If you are willing to take the risk, well, love is all about taking risks anyway.

She has a new guy right? But rest assured. Reading you said he looks like you, should be a rebound guy. That guy must've resemble you and that what she sees anyway. Start to think that way, and I'll say it again. You know her for 3 years, put some knowledge and memories into good use. Put some effort, swallow your pride and dare to take the risks. Only then you will know, and even if she doesn't want you back, you know you tried and hopefully you can accept that fact. No regrets are always better than wondering "What if?".

I guess the big thing is, that it wasn't the first incident, just a cap on what was becoming unbearable. She was stuck in her ways and I tell you, she has what is right and wrong to her, and if you didn't do whatever, you were the cause of her pain. My friends and family said I was just being put through the ringer. I tried and helped her every way I can. She has little ones that needed more taking care of than what she was giving them. Even though things were tough, it's still hard to accept. I'm not sure, but maybe I should bump into her someday?? To see if she really has changed or is it a lost cause? The last messages I got via email were her saying how she should have done things differently and how I was her teacher. I don't know, especially now, since she has someone new.

Sigh, sounds pretty much like my ex. Well, I think every girls are different, I mean in a sense of right or wrong to her. Can't actually compare it to others. So when you were with her, you can either live with it, or bend a few depending on her flexibility.

About the new guy, there are lots of approach that doesn't involve emotions and could lead to argument between you, her and him. Don't be a homewrecker, but instead be visible in her life. Be somewhat important, and let her decide whom to be with. Gotta work hard though.