What to do????

Ok my boyfriend and I have been together for a year. He has a son with his ex. THey have been seperated for about 2.5 to 3 years. His ex has never met me but yet she hates me. We have custody of his child Monday through Friday and then she has him on the weekends.
Right now I am finding myself hating her even more. I do not like to hate any body. This Christmas he wanted to take his son to Miami. She freaked out on him and told him that if he took me with him that she would come get their son and never see him again. So as his girlfriend I did not want to put him in that situation. Now I am missing him and it has only been 3 days. On top of that I am having personal issues. I just found out that my father is having emergency open heart surgery and may not make it. I found this out yesterday. I waited all day to talk to him about it and everytime he called he was in a hurry to get some where else. I finally flipped out on him this morning and told him that is what I have been waiting all day to talk to him about. And that maybe he should take more than 2 minutes out of his day to be there for his girlfriend.

He is a very selfish person sometimes and will do what he wants before even considering any one else. I am to the point where I do not know if I want to even continue to be with him because of all of this. I know that he is spending time with family and he is busy but shouldnt I still matter?? Somebody please give me advice with this.

Hi pumpkin01 welcome to the forum

this:

"He is a very selfish person sometimes and will do what he wants before even considering any one else."


is much more prevalent than one might think. In the end most of the time it happens. At least that's my experiences.

I don't think you are right though to want to leave him based on this event. However if there is a pattern of not being there when you need him you are right and would be better off without all the headaches that come together with a boyfriend who's already got previous 'ties'