why do men not care?

i don't understand men, i was with this great guy, we spit up and he is dating someone else, he stopped all contact with me. he said he cared about me. i was good to him. now hes dating this girl, does he not care to think that this hurts me.... no contact, we were friends and now we are nothing, i tried to call,tex,no response like it was all a lie that he said i love being with you;; why not a goodbye.. i feel like he died. he knew i lost alot of close family members and called me on thanksgiving. i am hurt...

Well, this isn't men. It's people. Women could the same exact thing you talked about to a man. I'm sorry you are hurt. It sucks that he lied to you. You are welcomed to let off any steam here.

Because men are heartless fools
they change, he was probably just using you for the time-being, and now hes found another chick, hes done with you and doesnt need you anymore, I know it hurts, it hurts like hell, trust me i'm crying this very moment.
But at the end of the day, your better than that, forget him, never expect anything from him, and make yourself better. That way he'll know he's made a big mistake and maybe when other men start showing interest in you, he'll come back, then you'll be on top of cloud nine
But I know exactly how you feel, one minute their your world and the next, their gone :'(
And if you never expect anything from him, when he does start caring again, it will be a pleasant surprise

I hope this helped, im talking from a heart broken into small pieces, by someone who apparently loved me and cared for me so much, then why in the world did he change into someone I never thought he would be EVER, anyway never mind. I hope his conscience does him good

I know a lot of women who have done the same thing. I know it hurts to believe something that you thought was love. To be as vonurable as you probably were. But what you need to do is be thankful that he showed you his true colors now rather than five years down the line when the risk could have been higher. Time will heal. Get out, have fun, and be with close friends. Dont spend those lonely nights looking at memories of him...it will just hurt

Take it from me, I've done it twice with the same person. Giving chance after chance, because we had a child. Matter of fact, shes is only daughter. He told me how much he loved me, he was going to marry me etc. I found out he made a child with one of his baby mothers while we were together. I told him back. But he wasnt sorry, his true colors showed every-time. He only dealt with his daughter if he was dealing with me. He was in and out of her life. But I can't take anymore, I've had enough. He's a worthless piece of shit,. and I wish him the best.

Men and women cannot be "just friends" after ending a relationship, and not when one has feelings for the other that are not mutual. He is with someone else now and has to remain focused on her. Do you think you are being fair to her by demanding that your ex-bf, her current bf, start spending more time with you instead of her? How would you have felt if he had been spending time with an ex while you were together when he should have been with you? You should also look more deeply into your own feelings. Are you absolutely certain that your desire to keep your ex in your life isn't based on just a little bit of jealousy that he is happy with someone else? Sometimes we aren't even aware of what it is that drives us to think and act the way we do and we are shocked when we find out what it is. I say it's best to just accept that the relationship is over and that he doesn't want you in his life any longer and move on. If he can be happy with someone else, so can you.

same fing happend to me wen he promised me he was gna b der 4 me 4ever n he wanted to marry me n spoke to my family about it but everyfing changed. now i cant trust any guy at awl. they are awl the same

hey, i'm a MAN and a woman did this to me. she promised me the world and made me promise her things as well. i meant every word i said but apparently she didn't. we broke up and soon after she started to date another guy. it works both ways. im just as upset as you ladies are!

Hey, I'm a guy also and my ex girl totally left me hanging while she was seeing some other guy...She promised me marriage and happiness but in the end i got shit. She was heartless and only thought of herself. Guys are not the only ones, we care just as much...if not more than you women do. All depends on the person I guess.

yes u re right son,girls are more trouble for breaks up,she left me and 7 weeks never talk to eachother,then she want it to come back and i told her goodbye,is to late,she was crying a lot and i did care but she make me suffer before,so we man care more then girls,

I have been over him for sometime,, i know there have been some men who where there and then like an instant gone,,,, but thats life,, I am enjoying my life and my friends right now, til the right one comes along for me, but i am not looking....

maybe he met someone who spoke English instead of Engrish?

i was with my guy for 2 years, he took my virginity. He even proposed (i said no as i was only 20) he even bought me a promise ring because we both knew marriage was on the cards one day. i was there for him whenever he needed me, then he cheated on me and got his ex pregnant. a woman he himself told me looks like a pig! i had to end it cause i know it couldnt have been only once and that it is still going on now. he took me for granted because he knew i loved him and could never hurt him. now whenever i start to move on with my life he comes back and tells me he loves me and cant live without me, that whatever happens nothing will ever come between us. how can someone love u and hurt u so much?!?!?!?!

You are all a bunch of gullible saps........ My ex girlfriend cheated on me, i dumped her ass and when she wanted to get back together i told her to go fuck herself. I didn't go sobbing on the internet about it. Get over it and find some other nice person, ta se saghas obvious, nach bhfuil?? later

Your a punk!@ with a shity attitude that is hurt his damn self and wants to be stupid!