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Well, without a little more background this is difficult to discuss. But put simply, relationships aren't like a job or a hobby. Working hard at it isn't always enough to make it work, because it is about what you BOTH want.
I may be incorrect in assuming the following post was yours also, but if it is let me say this:
People seek out that which is rare and interesting. And within relationships, we want that elusive, mutually enriching bond with our partner, our "soul mate." We must perceive that we cannot simply go out and find another to replace them, because what they offer us is exceedingly good for our mind and soul.
Becoming too available in a relationship is not "mutually enriching," and can often put pressure on that other person by guilt or resentment in having to match the other's faster, overwhelming pace.
To love unconditionally doesn't mean focus your life doting on the other person. It means to match their pace and give/take in a balanced fashion. There can be such a thing as loving way too much. Love can be shown through control and letting the other person grow for themselves.
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