Why No Contact Doesn’t Win Them Back
For those wondering about No Contact as a good policy, the answer cannot be found cruising through chat forums. Your situation is unique. This is love. It is nothing to do with power, or how tough you are, or burning memories of your sweetheart. Relationships end and rekindle all the time.
No Contact doesn’t help a situation. You might get her back through jealousy but that is not a strong foundation for the future. My advice is to tell her you want some time apart, just to breathe, and to respect her wishes for a little space. Maybe 3 weeks or so. Let the emotions calm down. Then perhaps meet for coffee. Just have a few laughs together. You have to normalize your emotions.
You will know if you truly want this woman or man once the physical lust has subsided. But in terms of getting back together, it takes time, but don’t let fear get in the way. Put your pride aside. Get the ego out of the way. Truly understand how she feels, and let her take the wheel for now. Maturity, and your inner peace will stand you head and shoulders above any competitor.
Since most relationships blow up at some point, and most dates are a disaster, and since it is so hard to find that rare gem you could be with forever, don’t worry that you will be replaced too quickly. You won’t be. Trust in yourself. Be brave enough to get real with her, yet please retain your self respect.
Concentrate on yourself for now. Use this emotional time to write, or do something creative, workout, take photographs, kick **** at work, use all that time to get back on top. Just remember that one day, she will be back. Very young girls need to explore. Let them. But check in from time to time. Don’t lose touch. Let them feel endlessly comfortable and loved by you. In the end, they will see the light.
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