O.K. maybe Win Back Your Ex - The Texts of DEATH is a bit of a dramatic title but it is for good reason. I often brush upon the topic of text messages in some of my articles but I feel they deserve a little more then a few lines.
I do not have to tell anyone but texting has become a way of life. Look at the progression. We used to just hand write letters to each other and mail them. Then with the advent of the Internet we could E Mail and Instant Message. Of course, this would require that both parities be at a computer with an Internet connection to send or receive a message. Around the same time we became a culture OBSESSED with our cell phones. Suddenly, 12 year olds need a cell phone and no one went anywhere with out them. Well now we have full keyboards, Blackberries and more advanced telecommunication devices. Yay Text Messaging!
The real thing of beauty, the best part about it is if you send someone a message, you don’t know if they have read it or not. On the other side...it is very easy to ignore a text. This has become equal to just ignoring someone if they were standing right next to you.
This constant communication plays a huge role in any relationship. Now, in a broken relationship, especially when one is trying to win back your ex, this becomes a weapon. A sword or a gun can have similar effects as a well worded text message. And what about the barrage of texts that one is able to send over a short period of time?
The point I am trying to make (yea, it’s here somewhere) is this new and powerful tool and greatly help win back your ex or totally destroy any chances you ever had. Texting gives us an impersonal outlet for what we are feeling and it is a direct connection to the person who is making us feel that way. This is why it is so powerful and why it can have such horrible results if used incorrectly.
If you are actually trying to win back your ex and this goes for the guys and the girls, use your text messages wisely. Too many over a short period of time will just annoy the **** out of the other person. Totally ignoring them will just send them the message that you don’t care. A carefully worded and times message can do a world of difference.
Examples, you say?
BAD Text #1
12:23 pm “John I know you are out with that *****. You are such an a*hole!!! I guess I mean nothing to you.”
12:26 pm “You cnt even write back to me??? why are you being so shady?”
12:30 pm “I F’n hate you! I hope you are having fun because I am going out now too!”
And scene! John was out with his buddies watching a ball game. Did not hear his phone in the ten mins she was texting. She now has drawn her own conclusions and cursed him off. How do you think he feels about her when he looks at his phone.
GOOD Text #1
12:23 pm “John hope you are having a good night. Just wanted to let you know i was thinking about you. Going out with Jenn for a little bit. Give me a call tommro”
This is a good. It makes him feel good about her and what she said, lets him know that she is still thinking about him but not obsessed and leaves the door open for him to get in touch with her. Also lets him know she is not just sitting home alone.
See texts can be an awesome tool to use to win back your ex.